So far spouse has been great....

[lauralee77]

I guess I'm pretty lucky because my spouse has been nothing but supportive and caring since I've had this disease. We have only been married for 3 months and been together for 6 years. I was diagnosed 2 years ago, so he has had to deal with alot of my ups and downs. This past month has just been horrible, though. I've been in alot of pain and I'm depressed and never feel like doing anything. I've had to call out of work, so we're not making as much money. I do have fears that he'll eventually grow to resent me and all my aches and pains. Today I feel like absolute c*#p again, but I've decided that instead of sitting around all day doing nothing, I'm going to clean the house and make him dinner and actually try to look nice and put make-up on

[jude mack]

Hi Laurlee77 ;)

Sorry you feel so lousy, but you are thinking positively, if you are going to
do housework, make-up and supper. It's is great to have a supportive husband.
And I wouldn't stress about him getting tired of your aches and pains, that may
never happen and you've worried for nothing. This disease is very stressful for
him too, and he probably doesn't understand alot of it, so just keep the lines
of communication open to him. I used feel my hubby would get sick of me too,
and at times he probably does, but he is still here after 18 years and is still very
supportive. Try and keep up the positives and don't worry about the what ifs, this
does help allot. Take care Jude :wave:

[Shelleyshells]

Lauralee,
I have been feeling bad for several weeks. I haven't done housework and I can barely go to work. I call in a lot.

I think I know how you feel. I used to be so energetic and productive and kept a clean house and cooked meals. Now, I spend most of my time in bed.

In this day and age, it is hard to find someone who will stick with you. The vows that say "for better or for worse, in sickness and in health" don't seem to have much meaning. I have been afraid that my husband would get sick of the lupus and the effects of it and leave me. He is one of the good ones though. And, it sounds like your hubby is the same.

Don't push yourself too hard. You will just end up where you started. Rest and then get your makeup on and look cute. :D

Have a good day! and know that you are loved!!
Shelley

[alobreto]

Hi, Lauralee! ;)
While I believe it's important to try to look your best for hubby, I think it's even MORE important to let him know you think HE looks terrific. This has worked like a charm my whole life with every man I've loved- father, in-laws, sons, nephews. They just can't get enough of it. B)

The housework will be there waiting when someone feels up to it. Whether it's you or not is probably less important than whether or not you make your fellah feel important. It's been my experience that regular guys will slay dragons to bring you a cup of tea when you ask if they believe they're you're hero.

I have a great hubby, like you do. I let him know that ALL the time... and...
he'd slay a dragon to bring me a cup of tea if I asked him, even if the house was messy, I was rash-y, and my back hurt so much I was spending most nights in my recliner instead of in bed with him.
Best regards,
Angela :flowers:

[saraj81]

Love your attitude, just don't push yourself.
who cares if your house is a little messy ask family to help out and do that kind of stuff, that is why we are there. when you have the energy to do things DO NOT waste it on house work!!!! hope you have a great evening and your husband will love it. they just love the attention. let us know how it goes.