Appearance changes

[Tazzytnt]

HI I just had to post something, I am 23, I was started on Prednisilone, which is a simplified form of prednisone, so it was already metabolized for me, at 20. So ofcouse I gained 60 lbs with out even knowing it was like one day I was my size 10 self and happy with it then i was size 18/20 I was so wrapped up in dealing with having Lupus I didn't even think about the weight gain until recently I at first was just so unhappy with my self. I tried a diet that had helped me in the past to lose vainty weight and the frist ten pound was easy and then the next ten a little harder then nothing. I still have not lost the weight my body has not recorved from the prednisilone but now I am learning to love my body not matter what and just be happy if I can walk to the kitchen with out paying for it. I am overjoyed when I can walk to the mail box and still be able to walk back to my building. I lnow now that if a man look at me a thinks that I am not perfect he is not the one for me. I am not ashamed of my body, I love what I am inside and I have learned that my self worth is not reflected by my dress size. My hair may fall out my skin may have sores all over it and my mind may not be the sharpest any more. But I love me and all the things that I have been able to learn about my self all the time I have to pray and wirte and draw and make jewlery, take pictures, read, or just have a day to sleep when the pain is just to much. the little things are so important to me now and the big stuff will work out.
Thanks all Tiphani :woohoo:

[nicole7]

Nice to hear your great attitude...keep it up :)
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[alobreto]

You're so right that we have to accept ourselves first and be less concerned about how others see us. We do change throughout life. Even folks who aren't ill hope one day to be very old! With that condition come obvious changes!

Relationships that are affected by changes in physical appearance were not very close relationships after all. This can be painful to discover. :(

I'm glad you are comfortable with your body right now. Sometimes we can't change things and that is the time we need to be accepting of the status quo.
Regards,
Angela

[confused1]

(((((((((( Tiphani ))))))))))))

Sunny

[jude mack]

Oh Tiphani

Your post is so positive, and with a great selfworth. I'm happy for you, we all
need to be comfortable with our wieght and looks, it takes so much pressure off
us. And as they say "You have to love yourself before you can love anyone else"
Your great attitude will keep you going no matter what. Take care Jude :thumbs:

[strawberry]

<span style='font-family:Times'>[C<span style='font-size:14pt;line-height:100%'>OLOR=green] :welcome: i a very impressed with your outlook on life. it gives me hope that i can bring myself to have that outlook.right now i am having serious problems with being down and depressed.for one i stay in my house 24/7 and i know thats not good. but once you get down how do you pull yourself up? i just can't seem to get up and do anything.i sleep a lot, not eating well, but somehow i am gonna get your way of looking at life.i just wanted to say congrats on your new outlook!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!</span></span>[/COLOR]

[Woofmonster]

Love your attitude, something I need to cultivate a bit more right now, glad you are well and happy, :highfive: hugs, Wolfie :flowers:

[Tazzytnt]

Thank you all so much. Beleive me I would not be where I am at without this site it has help me to not feel alone. I know that others are going through what am and I can ask for help from those who understand what it is like to have lupus. I read post from other lupies that i could have written. I just am so thankful for this site. peer support means so much with lupus.
Thank You All
Tiphani

[jjoyl]

HI Tiphany :wave:

you go girl :woohoo:

i used to be a whopping to huge to say hehe but didnt have any problem finding the handsome knight in shining armor of my dreams! now im a size 20/22 much smaller than i was and still in love youll find your love! in my book being thick is more of a woman than some men can handle (too bad for them) but for those who can (or think they can hehe) are in luck when they find out just what a thick woman can offer ssshhh... hehehe!!!! by the way i read that you make jewelry, can i talk to you more about this ? do you sell ? e-mail me at jjoyl@comcast.net

Your friend jamie joy /MrsKwiK im 27 and live in michigan
:coffee:

[Vida]

:wave: hi

love your outlook on life it's similar to mine :D took me a long time to get there but i am mighty glad i did :D

:flowers: :flowers:

[mia729]

Hey there Tiph,

Your post gives me hope! I am so very depressed at this point in my life. I am 42 years old and have been on prednisone for two years. Everytime I go below 5 I flare so bad it's off to the hospital for me! I use to be a size 8. Now I am a 14 and my face is soooooooooooooo swollen and my belly too! I feel so very ugly! My family tries to tell me I still look beautiful but how do you believe them when you look in the mirror and see these horrible chipmunk cheeks! This med. is the only thing keeping me out of the hospital right now and I guess I should be grateful but at the same time I HATE IT!!!! It's side effects are just plain cruel! My rheumy has me on methotrexate and colchicine in the hopes that I will be able to come off this prednisone monster but we will have to see! Thanks for being so candid and you are right if someone is going to love you than they should love you the way you are.........................I have always had a low self esteem so imagine how bad I feel now!!!!! I don't leave my house except for work......my friends invite me out all the time...but I don't go cause I don't feel attractive....what the **** do I wear? a moo moo!!!? anyway pray for me.....I will for you!!! ciao! and may god bless you and continue to give you strength!
love,

Mia :wave:

[Tigger360]

HEY! big gurls need love too and for me it doesnt matter how a gurl looks just how they are. :P

Keep ur head up and get better :love: