i hate my face

[*tEsSaBeAr15*]

okay from my medication, my face has gotten sooo chubby i hate it ... i ve neva had a adouble chin b4 and now i do n my cheeks were always chubby but now they are really chubby i hate my face .. i hate takin pictures n i hate bein n public i kno im over reacting but i hate it !!!! urgh ..........

[Tigger360]

Yea it sux I know what your goiing through my GF has lupus and the meds are blowing her up. But dont worry to much it can go away I think Just talk it out with your doctor try to find out a dose of your meds thats right for you. My girl started on a really high dose and after talking to some other doctors and looking for the right dose and eating well it is almost gone.

Dont stop taking your meds just ask for a lower dose and try to control the way you eat cuz the drugs gave my girl the crazy munchies :P

Take control and be strong ;)

[helloos]

I would talk to the doctor too, but try to remember that most likely this med is temporary and things will improve and your dose will get dropped.

Also remember that you are who you are inside. Those who love you and know you will not judge you by your face but who you are inside.

I know it isn't easy, and I am not on meds that make that happen, so my words may be meaningless?

I just know that I would not care if my friend's face was swollen because of treatment, I would care that she was going to get better.

Better days ahead and this too shall pass.
Paula

[alobreto]

Hi, Tessa! ;)
Oh! How I can relate with this one! :blink: I'm on long term pred at a low dose and it's still enough to keep me looking like a blowfish! :angry:

It's tough to deal with the problems of treatment that affect your FACE. I mean, it's out there for all the world to see. :unsure:

It's true, however, that what we have to offer others has very LITTLE to do with how round and fat our faces are. B) The people who matter, the ones who actually CARE about us, :love: are aware of the chubbiness but it doesn't affect their feelings for us or our intrinsic value to them... not one scintilla.

I'm sorry I can't help your face any more than I can help my own, but I do want you to know that you're not alone in this and that your feelings are a natural response.
Best regards,
Angela :flowers:

[confused1]

Darling, your face is lovely. You are lovely. While medication you're taking or diseases you're sick with may affect how your face is shaped, please know that nothing can take away from your beauty.

You must stop hating yourself. That kind of negative energy turned inwards will only make your pain worse. If mirrors cause you pain, then throw them away. But even better, look into the mirror at your clear, lovely eyes and see a strong person filled with beauty and with resolve not to give in to this disease. Find your center, honor the beauty you were intended to have. And love yourself.

Remember the injunction to love others "as you would love yourself" (please forgive me if I have offended anyone with this quotation). Well, you must first love yourself before you can love others. Don't let disease and medication turn you into your own enemy.

Just remember that you are beautiful in God's eyes, and always will be.

love,
Sunny

[JulieT]

Hi there,

I really do empathise, like you, hate HATE, the round face & double chin, ****, who is this person???!!!

But you know, what people have said above is all true, I worried about it far more than nearest & dearest, at the end of the day, you with :) or you ill in bed.....no contest....................

Best wishes Julie xx

[Deborah Rumbles]

:wave: I've also had feelings like this many times about face swelling up like balloon because of steroids, also my tummy is big infact somebody on bus asked me the other day when my baby was due, and offered me a seat.I took the seat and smiled nicely and said 2 months.Sad but true!!At that time I needed a seat as my joints were killing me I am not pregnant, but I do look it!!! Anyway as Julue and others have said to you it's better than being ill in bed, a swollen face will go eventually. Take care of you, and try to tell yourself your BEAUTIFUL.. :flowers: :love:

[erica]

I can relate to what your going through i hate my face and my body, I'm 22 and I'm going bald, i always look tired and feel tired i hate going outside. I wish i didn't look sick. Lupus can take everything from you from your physical strenght to your self esteem.

[Deborah Rumbles]

:love: Erica,
That is so true but what it can't take is your sense of humour, nor your personality, please remind yourself that you are a beautiful young woman, with lots of friends here. I also have alopecia patches of hairloss and I cover them up with wool that I pleat into my hair, each colour matches outfits, it does help I think to look good.I know it is difficult living with lupus,but I try to remain positive and I always think about the kids that have SLE if they can cope then so must we.At least I had a painfree childhood. :thumbs: