my girlfriend has lupus - please help!

[sweetguy01]

ok, well me and my girlfriend just made love earlier tonight ...... we did not use protection. im a worrier.................... where im getting at is the morning after pill not good for her to use?....she does have lupus. please if anyone can get me any and all advice on options and tips, i will love you all style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/foryou.gif

thank you in advance!

[chrismommy03]

umm im 22 with lupus diagnosed at 13 at 15 i used the morning after and the er doctor said it was fine she should be ok to use it


good luck
Jennifer

[T. A. Bossmeier]

Hi Gary,

It was nice chatting with you in the chat room tonight. I hope you don't mind my saying so but you both need to start being a little more responsible toward preventing pregnancy. If you squeak by this time with out disaster striking please start practicing some type of birth control.

I say this because with lupus it is not always clear how one will be affected by pregnancy. I hope you love your girl friend enough to be sure that she is protected .

I wish you both the best of luck and I think it is very responsible of you to want to find out how lupus works for you girlfriend. You might also mention this site to her, I am sure she could use all the support she can get.

Best wishes to you both ,

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[Clare.T]

Hi Gary

I heard a lupus expert say that the risks of emergency contraception were far less than the risks of an unplanned lupus pregnancy.

Caring about somebody means caring for their welfare. Unplanned pregnancies outside of marriage
(and even within) usually blight the course of lives - three lives - and frequently ruin them, and that's in healthy people.

Lupus pregnancies are counted as high risk, even though the success rate these days with expert care is very good. For some women, depending on how they are affected by lupus, it is extremely high risk.

If your girlfriend has a clotting condition, taking the pill is not an option.


It is especially hard for younger women to accept the limitations that lupus can bring and in any new relationship it's hard to know when to talk about your lupus. For one thing there is the fear of rejection so you will need to reassure her. For many of us it's a very touchy subject.

Please read the letter to family and friends to get an idea of how to help most. It's not easy to get th right balance of support and help without coming over as fussing.

I applaud you for wanting to know more about lupus and being ready to ask her how she is affected by it. I hope she realises how fortunate she is

I hope it goes well

Clare

[sweetguy01]

thank you for all the replays, unfortunately i dont have enough time to replay back right now. i just wanted to say thank you to everyone i talked to last night! style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.gif