A new part of my life is about to begin

[flowergarden]

I just got news that I might be going into disabled housing much sooner than I thought--like within a month or two. (I'm dealing with more and more dementia.) That means getting this mobile home ready to sell and selling it. My parents are helping me put down new flooring, paint, and do odds 'n ends of fixups.

My biggest problem is that I get going on something then I "hit the wall" and have to stop. I feel really bad leaving my 80-yr-old parents doing so much work, so I push myself harder. Then I crash.

I'm dreading the next few months as I go through all the stress of selling, packing, moving, unpacking and adjusting to a new town.

In the middle of all this, my daughter is due to have her baby. I want to go be with her, but she's 1500 miles away.

I'm so nervous! style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/hide.gif style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/blink.gif

[Raglet]

Sue, what about youlr son ? you have donne a lot of baby sitting for him, its time that he came and helped his mother.

ring him up and tell him raglet says so

big hugs

raglet

[helloos]

Hi Sue.

I am really hoping that once you get this aweful work done and have moved, that you will find this new town and home a peaceful, joyful place for you to be and that you adjust just fine.

I know it must be hard for you but yes, ask for the help. You need it. You do so much for everyone else and time for payback.

I know it is easier said than done, but try not to push youself. Ask for someone to help. If I lived near you I would help, but I am in Massachusetts !!!

Sending hugs your way and let me know how it is going.

When you move, make sure the first thing that is set up is YOUR COMPUTER !

[peonyprincess]

I am sure it will be a relief to get into the housing as it will take a load of responsibility off of your shoulders (up keep on the property, etc). I am sure there are tons of emotions that you are going thru right now with this new stage of your life. I am sorry that you are having difficulities packing, cleaning and the like. I am sure your parents are glad to help and I understand how you feel about your eldery parents helping out. If they couldn't or didn't want to assist, I am sure they would say something. In any event, is there a church organization, girl scout or boy scout troop that could help (community service)? What about hiring someone? Just some ideas. Good luck on your move and congrats!




Nancy

[flowergarden]

Thank you Raglet, Paula, and Nancy.

Raglet, my son's wife just had a baby and they are moving to a new house in a week. So it will be awhile until he can help. But believe me he'd better after that!

Paula, my computer and my microwave, probably in that order!

Nancy, yes, there are a lot of emotions right now. I 'm have a hard time keeping up my flower-ful yard, but I'll miss it. I'll miss my friends here, but I won't miss the crime in the neighborhood. I will love living within walking distance of church and therapist, but farther from all my doctors. I'll be closer to both my son and my youngest daughter. I'm sure I'll be happier, it's just that it seems so overwhelming right now. I'm trying to do at least one little thing a day to get ready..

One charity is sure getting a lot of my stuff!
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[lisade]

Hi Sue, I just got back to the computer and saw your message. I know you are certainly going through alot right now. There is not much I can add other than to let you know I will be thinking about you.


Good luck and congratulations on the new grands style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/foryou.gif

[jude mack]

Hi Sue

I can only imagine how overwhelming this is for you, I'm sorry you don't have more help, couldn't you get some help from a
nearby church or one you attend. There's got to be some kind of help out there for people who are disabled. I know here we
have an organization that helps people who need it and they don't charge either.

Try to get as much rest as you can, I know that is pretty hard to do, but you need it. I hope your new home brings you peace and joy, being closer to your son and daughter will be comforting. Take care of yourself and good luck with the move.

Hugs Jude style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/flowers.gif

[Douglas]

> My biggest problem is that I get going on something then I "hit the wall" and have to stop.



> My biggest problem is that I get going on something then I "hit the wall" and have to stop.

I have had to learn to live "sprint and stop" a long time ago. The funny part is I could and can often accomplish more than my non-Lupus friends.

Ipray all things work out well for you/