People can be rude....

[lauralee77]

People can be so rude. I think they say things without thinking. The other day I ran into a casual aquaintence that I haven't seen in a long time and said hello. I don't think she even knows that I have lupus, but she looked at me and said, "Are you okay?" I replied back that I was fine. Then she asked AGAIN if I was okay. She was looking at me like like I had two heads and said, "You just look tired." Well, thanks alot, that really made my day! Then the other day another aquaintance that I was talking to said, "I can tell you're taking the steroid again because your face looks full". Well, thank you for THAT observation. It's like I already feel so unattractive lately and people make it worse by the things they say. style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/mad.gif

[jude mack]

Hi Lauralee

Yes that is rude, especially when you know your tired and not your best. I usually get "wow do you ever look white, you should try wearing make-up", Ya thanks I am. And I get that from people who know I have Lupus. I don't really think people think before they speak, and since we are already sensitive about our looks, comments like that just make us feel ticked. I try to just let those comments side and not worry about them.

Stay Well
Jude

[raggedyann1]

Laura,

I know it upset you but it sounds like your friends are concerned about you which is much better IMO than "boy you are looking great these days". They certainly could have said it much better, their choice of words were not want you wanted to hear. The friend who is closer can you tell her it hurts when she comments about the prednisone making your face puffy?

Take care,
Karen

[helloos]

I would have said hmmm that is why mine is fuller but why is yours, are you ok?

[peonyprincess]

Aren't people wonderful????



I have been out and about alot lately because of the kids ballgames and there have been people who haven't seen me for a while. Their comments.............. my I didn't realize that taking so many meds could put that much weight on a person. Yeah, it does, now excuse me, I am trying to sit down and I cannot see you behind me. Now, I also have discoid lupus which brough out the following comment....................you must have found a soap for your face because you do not look near as broke out as you did this winter, and you have some scarring but it looks like your makeup when put on correctly will cover it. Thank you, thank you very much, nancy has left the building!!!!


Nancy

[softball893]

Hi there style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.gif


I am the type of person that tries not to focus on my physical state all of the time. I try to
find somethinmg to be positive about each day,m but I do truly understand where you are
coming from. It is hard to do this when everyone looks at you like there is something wrong with
you all of the time. My best friend's mother told her that I looked so bad that she wnated me to go
back to the doctor as soon as I could. Well, normally that wouldnt have bothered me that bad,
but it was at a birthday party we went to, and she said it in front of everyone there. Then I was
asked by everyone there if I was okay over and over again! Needless to say, that day, I was feeling
pretty good and didnt really need to hear about how bad I looked. Some people just dont
understand at all!


Lot of love,

Liz

[SueC]

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Once the mother of a frnd of mine looked at my face like she can see the micro-pores n told her daughter not to be frnds with me, coz' she doesn't like the way I look. She said my face has diff: colors on some spots n tht means I'm not a good person according to the old facial reading books.

LOLS...

yea, I've gotta laugh it out or I'll get REALLY really angry.

Darn! I've never thought ppl could be so mean till tht moment...

Your case is much more comfortable than mine lauralee style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.gif . hope u'll feel better now.



tryin not to hate everyth,
Sue
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