birth control

[julycastle]

Hi, My name is Juliana I am 21, brazilian and was diagnosted with Lupus I was 18 and lived in Brazil yet. I was so happy I was pregnant. I had a 5 weeks pregnacy and me and my boyfriend was really happy about that. This afternoon I had a miscarriage. I bleed a lot and lost my baby. I did not go to the hospital yet because I am an Au Pair and I did not tell my family but I am really scared right now. I am not going in the doctors since I came here a year ago and I don;t know how it is going. Can someone tell me if I can use any birth control? I am scared about that.
Thanks a lot

[crm1209]

Oh, Juliana,
I am so sorry for the loss of your baby, and sad that you are so alone with this. I'm very glad you wrote. I'm sure lots of people will respond and you'll see that you'll get lots of support and care here. style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/hugbetter.gif

I'm not a physician and I don't know everything about your health and your circumstances, so I don't know that I can offer any good advice about what type of birth control you can use other than a condom.There are lots of knowledgable people on this site who may have some good suggestions, though.

If you would consider it, I'd like to encourage you to see a doctor and talk about your lupus and the miscarriage, and get checked out to see if you're ok. A doctor could also advise you about appropriate methods of birth control.

I will keep you in my thoughts, and I wish you well.

Renee style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/foryou.gif

[julycastle]

I am so glad you answer something to me. I am feeling so lonely here. I am away from my family and friends and I don't have anyone alse to share my pain this moment. I don't really know what to do.
Thanks once again for answer my topic.

[Joandublin]

Hi Juliana style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/flowers.gif

Lovely to meet you but I am so very sorry about the loss of your baby style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/crying.gif I am not too sure from your post whether you are on medications? Here is a link from this site which might be helpful to you

http://www.uklupus.co.uk/fact13.html

This is a wonderful site with very supportive members who are only too willing to help and advise others based on their experience. I am sure others will come along soon with information on birth control that will help.

Really glad you found us. Please stay posting and ask any questions......

Love
Joan style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/flowers.gif

[Pickles]

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I am so sorry about the miscarriage.. Now,I have never been pregnant so I don't know much about these things. BUT, If you were pregnant and you lost a lot of blood and you think you miscarried, I think you need to go get CHECKED OUT BY A DOCTOR ASAP!!! As soon as you can get there!!! I'm sure they need to check you out to make sure there is nothing wrong and everything came out. They are the ones who need to tell you about birth control for your condition. You might could wear the patch or take shots now. BUT you need to ask them which would be BETTER for YOU!!!

I'm sure some more women would have better advice than me. There are lots of women here who have had normal pregnancies with lupus and some that have had miscarriages. I'm so sorry that you have to go thru this, hopefully you can try again. BUT PLEASE Go see a doctor!!! Let us know how you are doing

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[cath]

HI Juliana,

Welcome style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/wub.gif but I'm really sorry about your miscarriage. Poor you... I'm sorry you have to keep it from your employers too. That must be hard.

I agree with the others that it would be a good idea to try and get checked out by a ob/gyn (is that what you call an obstetrician in Brazil?) or by a doctor at the ER if you can, just to conform that everything did come away and that you aren't anaemic now from the blood loss. Do you feel OK? Has the bleeding slowed down now? It should be less than 1 sanitary pad soaked per hour. More than that and you need to get help straight away.

Sometime soon (routine rather than emergency) you should see either your rheumatologist or an ob/gyn. You need to get some tests

a) tests for APS (anticardiolipins, lupus anticoagulant, syphylis test (nothing to do with having syphylis but sometimes it is falsely positive if you have APS)

style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/cool.gifa recent ENA to check if you are Ro positive

c) your blood group. If you are rhesus negative, you should get a shot of Anti D ASAP to prevent you making antibodies to rhesus factor. This is to prevent problemes in future pregnancies. Most people are rhesus positive and so don't have to worry about this. You need to find out what blood group you are.

As far as anticonception is concerned, the best thing in the short term is condoms. Once you have stopped bleeding, you should see a family planning clinic or your ob/gyn to discuss other options. You can't take the combined pill if you have APS, but mini pill (progesterone only), patch or depo shot are all OK. The depo shot lasts 3 months and you shouldn't pick this if you want to try to get pregnant again soon. I'd avoid an IUD so soon after a miscarriage, especially as you have SLE and are more at risk of infection anyway.

All the best, and hoping to get to know you better... (in better circumstances I hope)

((((((((((((Juliana))))))))))))

X C X

[loz82]

Hi Juliana

i am so so sorry for your loss, please get checked out just to make sure everything is ok, like some1 said there may be a reason this happened and if you get it sorted or they find out what caused it they may be able to help stop it happeneing again.

You can go on birth control as cath said, i am on the depo injection, it stops your periods and they can take up to a year to become right again so like cath said if your wanting to try for another baby soon the depo might not be the best option, think everything else has pretty much been said but keep us updated and good luck

loz
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[Luscinda]

Ol? Juliana,

I?m really sorry about your miscarriage...

Please try to see a doctor as soon as possible, I think this is very important in your state. Plus, you don?t want your lupus to get worse...

Beijinhos e boa sorte!!! Good luck!

Luscinda

[rwb200]

Very sorry to hear about your loss.
I hope you do decide to get checked just to insure you are ok.

As far a Birth Control goes as soon as the Doctors found out my wife had Lupus they took her off the pill.
But there are many forms that can be used most are not as reliable as the pill but two kinds can be combined and give pretty good coverage. A condom is never a bad idea and a Spermicide foam or gel can be used.

When the doctors took her off of the pill they said it was because there is some belief that it could agravate Lupus, they also said that it can raise bllod pressurre and other medications they were putting her on could do the same so they did not want to risk the combined effect.

I would check with your Doctor and ask just what can be used. I'm sure they will have some recomendations. They may even have a pill of sometype that they will believe will be your best bet and will not cause the complications the Doctors thought my wifes would.

Not sure what all options are open in your area maybe someone will answer that is from there and can give advice on what they do.

Once again very sorry to hear about your loss.

[pnutts]

Hi Juliana,
I'm sorry about your loss. I hope you've made it to the doctor. They will give you advice on protection the best.

My personal experience because I'm unable to use regular birth control pills. We use condoms, and spermicide foam. There is also Vaginal contraceptive film that you can use. I haven't tried it though.

Cath

[helloos]

Hi there.

First I am sorry that I have just seen your post today and you posted a little time ago. I am sure by now, you have had a chance to get things checked out and possibly decide what birth control you would like to use.

I am very sorry for your loss. I am glad that you came on here to share your loss with us. It is a rollercoaster of emotions.

Let us know how you are.

Hugs sent your way.

[julycastle]

Hi, I am sorry for not post here before, I was so scared yet. I just got checked by doctors today. I know that should go before but you guys have no idea how scared i am right now. my boyfriend is beeing so supportative but I still feel like I am alone. I miss my family so bad.

But I went to the hosspital today after be bleeding for some days and still have some cramps and you gys can not believe but My Baby is fine. I have an 8 weeks pregnancy and the sad I still have some bllod inside but they said the baby is ok. I am really scared now. I don;t know what to do. I didn't tell my host family yet, they are helping me change my visa status and starting studying and i don;t know what to do now. They told me at the hospital that I should rest, not lift weight and it's imposible for me. I have to work and if my student status be aprpoved I have to study 15 hours per week instead of driving one hour alone to get to the school and one more hour get back home and take care of 3 kids full time during the day. So I don;t know how I can keep up with all this.

I feel that my pregnancy will not be easy. I fell sick all the time that is why i went to the hospital. because i feel sick all the time. I can;t eat well, i'm peeing a lot and i am losing a lot of weight, more than 1 pound every day since last week.

I wish I have my mom here. I wish I have her hug now.

Thanks a lot everyone that prayed for me and posted something here. I am glad that I can share my feelings with someone that undestand me.

[zara]

I'm glad your baby is okay. style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.gif There is probably a planned parenthood clinic in your area. They are a non-profit organization that helps women with pregnancy. If you have no money they will only charge minimal fees based on your income and financial situation.

You should also follow up with a rheumatologist at some point too. Pregnancy can certainly affect the disease process of lupus.

Take care. style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/hugbetter.gif

[julycastle]

i am sorry to come back here to say that. But i had a miscarriage. I am feeling so sad, I was so happy and I am so sad, I had told my family and my host family and everybody was so happy waiting for the new one. My in law family they were beeing so supportive but that happened.

SO, thanks everyone, now I will take care of myself because i m not doing that for a while.

Thanks one more time for listen and help me.

Juliana

[Lily]

(((((((((Juliana))))))))))))) I'm so sorry to hear you lost the baby :sad: :sorry:

Please take some time to rest if you can and give yourself time to be sad and grieve your loss.

Are you seeing a Rheumatologist now for your Lupus? I think its a good time to be checked out for those tests that Cath suggested that can increase your chance of miscarriage. Its also a good time to make sure your treatment for your lupus is all that it should be. Are you currently on any meds for your Lupus?

Sending hugs Juliana, I wish there was more we could do, but anytime you want to talk then just come here, we understand and we will try and help you through.

love
Lily