Would be grateful for a lupie hug

[RachelSut]

My little sister is just moving into her first home. She’s decorating it all herself at the moment and doing a fantastic job. I’m so happy for her and proud of her. :) I’m just feeling really emotional, :( I had to move back to the family home after my dx and my sister (Becky) has been fab, she’s really looked after me. :) I’m going to miss her but don’t want to spoil her happiness by offloading my emotions on her. She’knows it’s hard for me and does what she can. I’m just finding it hard,:( dad and mum are pleased and excited for her (naturally) and keep talking about what they’re going to buy her as a house warming/do to help out while she’s getting moved in etc and I just wish I was fit enough to go help her out more ‘cos then I’d get to spend some time with her and wouldn’t feel such a crap sister. :( Her best mate is helping her and I’m even though I love Stacey I’m getting jealous because I want to be able to help!! ARGH!!!
I just wanted to talk to someone who understands!! Thanks for listening:)
Happy healthy (tearful!!) hugs to you all
Rachel x

[christianirc]

I most definitly understand. I am 32 and still live with my parents for medical and insurance reasons. My sister is 40 and lived here for about 6 months while she was moving from one place to another. We got so much closer, and now she has moved to her new place that is a 10 hour drive away. I miss her too. I know what you are going through ((hugs))

Here is a a great big hug :)

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v32/marilla_cuthbert/hugs/Bunnypalhugs.gif

[keebler]

Rachel,

I am sure your sister understands how you are feeling. She sounds like a great Sister to have.

I know what you are saying too. So I am sending you some great big hugs. ((((((((Rachel)))))))))

http://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a348/Keebler_1974/huggzzz-vi.gif

[Pollyanna]

(((((((Rachel)))))))

Cyber hugs for you from Virginia, USA.

Love, Pollyanna :love:

[shelly21]

totally understand!!! my best friend/sister just had twin boys a month ago... i feel sick that i cant help her out! i feel so insufficient and selfish, but i literally cant do anyting about it!!

so yeah, totally am with you in thought...

all the best

Shelly
x

[acard]

:hug: :hug: HUGS:hug: :hug:

Becca:)

[cath]

Hi Rachel,

Last year I went through a time if being really mad at my husband for going to work, going out with his friends , sporting, having a life in general. Although I knew it was totally unreasonable of me, I was jealous of the fact that he had a life whilst mine was severely restricted. Of course I still loved him and felt guilty about my jealousy....

The point is that I can understand I think that your little sister's independance is bringing up mixed emotions for you. In a way it is triggering the grief reaction to your having lupus and it's consequences. It doesn't mean you love her any less, it is just that you are upset about how your life is less than you had expected it would be.

Be gentle on yourself. And keep doing what you can do and don't feel guiltly about what you can't do.

X C X

[LolaLola]

Hi Rachel,
Hugs from me! It is hard for you to still be at home however good your Parents are. Wish I could suggest something that would help.
Thinking of you,
x Lola

[RachelSut]

thank you. :thanx: it's so good to tell you beacuse you understand and don't judge

thanks again for being there:)

have a nice weekend:)

Rachel xxx

[Douglas]

"ARGH!!! " is a very important word for "the victims of the wolf". I seocnd your "ARGH!!! " and raise you a very heartfelt "OUCH!!!".
Hang in there.
Douglas+

[birdie]

:grouphug2: just big cyber hugs for you. You sound as if you need lots and lots.:hug:

[RachelSut]

Thanks for all the messages of support. :)
Things are settling down now. My sis had moved in and unpacked and iIve been for dinner-chilli yum yum. (she's a fab cook!):)
However i work from home and the house is now so quiet in the day. :( my parents work 7.30am till 5.30pm so by the time they get home I'm wilting. Feels abit lonely-:( thank goodness for you guys!
Have a nice weekend:)
Rachel xx

[Raglet]

hope it is not too late to add a big lupie hug of support.

sister's are so special, I will never forget helping one of my sisters clean up and paint an absolute dive on a flat - I was only a child, but it was great fun, and a wonderful memory, especially as that sister has since passed away.

it sucks that you get to miss out on this rite of passage, I would be sad too! Juggling that happy for your sis yet sad for yourself thing is very hard to do sometimes

love from raglet

xxx