[LolaLola]

Hello All,
Some of you may remember that my Father died at sea last Summer.
The Inquest is tomorrow. It is in Exeter, far too far for me to go especially as I am bad at the moment despite high steroids. I will get a Transcript of the Proceedings. My Brother is going as he was familiar with the Boat etc.
I feel the Inquest will still leave a lot unanswered especially as by the time his Body turned up it was very hard to get much idea at Post Mortem.

I am really hoping the verdict is not Misadventure because he was a very experienced Sailor although nearly 81 at the time and a bit eccentric. He would hate that verdict.
I will let you all know.
x Lola

 

[Joandublin]

Dear Lola

It will be a very stressful day for you tomorrow and no doubt you will be sitting by the phone waiting for your brother to call with any news :hug: I hope that the verdict is something that you can all live with and brings you some semblance of comfort. However I guess it will be very difficult to find out what actually happened especially as there were no witnesses :hugbetter:

I will be thinking of you and sending strengthening hugs across the waters to you.

Love
Joan:rose:

 

[Clare.T]

Dear Lola
Many strengthening and loving hugs for you. What a particularly distressing business it has all been.

Love and Hugs
Clare

 

[LolaLola]

Thank You Girls, I appreciate it.
x Lola

 

[keebler]

(((Lola)))

Sending you lots of hugs your way. It will be a tough day for you.:hug::hug:

Love,
Lyn

 

[silverlady1]

Lola. :hugbetter: ...hugs on the way:hug:

Ellen xx

 

[Katharine]

Hi Lola,

I feel deeply for you and would like to send lots of strengthening hugs and love winging their way to you.

My Dad would have been right with yours there on the misadventure thing. Let's hope the two of them are having a good seaman's chinwag up there as they look down on us.

Katharine

 

[debatat]

Lola

I am so sorry. It must be difficult for you. I am thinking of you and sending you hugs and warm wishes.

Deb x

 

[BigSis]

Hi Lola,
I'm sorry you are having to deal with this while your health is not so good.
Much love to you

 

[sheila t]

HI LOLA

Just wanted you to know... I will be thinking of you

Gentle Hugs
Sheila x

 

[elle-co]

Sending lots of gentle hugs your way.

Take care of yourself.

Elle x

 

[Fairy]

Take care
x

 

[Marika]

Dear Lola,

I went to the inquest on my mum's death last year. It was very distressing really...if you don't have to go then don't. My mum's death was put down as accidental ...which does leave you thinking .... what if? or if only I had done this or that. Any parents death needs some coming to terms with...if He was on his own how can anyone say what really happend? You know he was an excelent sailor does anything else matter?
I hope it won't be too stressful for your brother too.
Take Care

Marika

 

[Joandublin]

How did it go today Lola? Hope you are okay?

Luv n stuff
Joan:rose:

 

[macfamily53]

Hi Lola

I am so sorry you are having to deal with such stress and the loosing your dad at the same time(((((((hugs))))))).I will be thinking about you and hoping your brother calls with good news also.Please let us know how it all comes out for sure.I am sending you good thought and lots of (((((((((hugs)))))))) to get you through it all.Take care of yourself in the mean time.

Tammy

 

[LolaLola]

Hello Everyone and Thanks for thinking of me,
The Verdict was Accident. Cause of Death Undetermined due to the length of time the body was in the sea.
Apparently his heart was very bad and he could have gone at any time. According to a Statement from his Doctor, he knew this.
He was still driving his car hundreds of miles up and down Motorways preparing before this trip, he obviously shouldn't have been driving so I am thankful he didn't harm anyone in an accident.

Nothing else really came out at the Inquest, one or two minor details that is all. Fortunately the Press did not cover it. I had enough at the time of all those silly Ghost Ship stories.

Obviously, it is as good a verdict as we could have hoped for.
To be honest I just feel a bit flat , sort of "What Now"? It seems such a waste but then he would never have coped if he had just sat in a chair and waited for his heart to stop.

Thanks to you all, and special Hug for Katharine who really can identify.
You have all been such a help, Hope I can be here for you.
x Lola

 

[greenhaggis]

Lola,

Just read this thread!

So sorry for all you and family are going through - I had imagined wrongly that the inquest was months back!

From what I have gathered your Dad was 'in love' with the sea and to be sailing at the great age he was a fantastic feat!

I dont want you to take it the wrong way but if it seems he died doing something he was very passionate about, something to be proud of - not many of us live and die that way!

May he and your memories of him rest in peace now!

Love and hugs!

Lesley

PS - not very good at putting my thoughts into words, apologies!!!

 

[LolaLola]

No Lesley, All that happened at the time was that they opened and immediately adjourned the Inquest and gave us a sort of Interim Death Certificate so we could start setting his affairs in order. The Coroner's Office and the Police in the West Country were really helpful.

There is nothing wrong with what you are saying to me, I think you are right his life would have been worth nothing to him if he had to sit in a chair all day. His two boats are beautiful and it is sad to sell them but there is nothing to keep them for and the Mooring Fees are a fortune, plus the constant security worries. They should be used and enjoyed. Me, I get seasick in a puddle!!

He was difficult and secretive but he was also certainly pretty fearless.
Thanks for your kindness.
x Lola

 

[onetay]

Lola,
I am glad to hear it was an accident not that it makes you or your family feel better. You have the answers you have waited a long time for, you can start to heal and relax. You have some healing to do as I am sure the stress of it all has not done you much good. It has to be a comfort to know that he went doing something it sounds like he had a passionate love for. I hope that you can move on in time but until than if you need to talk I am here.
It has been almost 8 years since I lost both parents about 6 weeks apart and a 3 grandmother in 3 months. I still have people tell me that I should be over it but if someone knows how to get over that much death in your life please let me know. You do things in your time no matter how long it takes.
Tammy

 

[mysharonna]

Lola,

I am keeping you in my thoughts as you go through this difficult ordeal. Hope you are feeling better as well.

Take care,
Sharon