Hi staunchsupporter,
You're fine posting here since it's man related. :hehe: Just kidding.
It's great you have taken the time to learn about this disease, for both of you. I can only give you my thoughts about what your boyfriend is going through based on my own experiences. Being recently diagnosed, he most likely has a lot of phases to go through yet. Shock, anger, worry, understanding and accepting what this disease is and how to deal with it. It can take quite a while and I'm sure that varies for everyone, but we all go through it.
I'm guessing that he has began treatment (Usually Plaquenil at least) which should help him out quite a bit. As far as your relationship, I bet most people after finding out they have a disease give their partners a chance to bail out. I think it's natural to want someone you care about to have a better life, thinking the worst of course. Lupus is not a disease with a time line. You really don't even know how Lupus will effect the rest of your life and it effects everyone differently. I would get him time to figure a few things out, I'm pretty sure he doesn't really want you to go.
I don't think there is much about Lupus that is gender specific, so you can post anywhere really. Of course if you need a mans point of view, this is the place.
This is a great place for support and you can always join us in chat anytime someone is in there. Good luck!
You're fine posting here since it's man related. :hehe: Just kidding.
It's great you have taken the time to learn about this disease, for both of you. I can only give you my thoughts about what your boyfriend is going through based on my own experiences. Being recently diagnosed, he most likely has a lot of phases to go through yet. Shock, anger, worry, understanding and accepting what this disease is and how to deal with it. It can take quite a while and I'm sure that varies for everyone, but we all go through it.
I'm guessing that he has began treatment (Usually Plaquenil at least) which should help him out quite a bit. As far as your relationship, I bet most people after finding out they have a disease give their partners a chance to bail out. I think it's natural to want someone you care about to have a better life, thinking the worst of course. Lupus is not a disease with a time line. You really don't even know how Lupus will effect the rest of your life and it effects everyone differently. I would get him time to figure a few things out, I'm pretty sure he doesn't really want you to go.
I don't think there is much about Lupus that is gender specific, so you can post anywhere really. Of course if you need a mans point of view, this is the place.