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Hi guys. I hope you don't mind my posting in your "area," but I really need to hear from the men out there who are dealing with this disease. My boyfriend was recently diagnosed with SLE, though it's been taking a toll on him for a while now and has, until recently, gone misdiagnosed. I've done alot of research and reading and understand the physical pain, symptoms, fatigue, etc., that he has to deal with. I want to be here for him but I feel like he's pulling away and I don't know what to do. I understand the prognosis and what the future looks like right now, but I love him and I would stand by him through this and anything else that may come his or our way. But I'm not sure if he wants me in his life. He says he does but then he also says that it's not fair to me and he wants me to be happy. I don't want to leave him, i want to be here for him, but if he would do better if I weren't with him, giving him one less thing/person to worry about, is that what I should do? I'm confused. I love him, I want to be here for him I want to be here with him, but I don't want to make it worse. I'd really appreciate any advice those of you men going through this could give. I want to do whatever I can to support him and to not add any stress or worry to what he's already having to deal with.
Thank you!
Thank you!