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Hi all,

Im after a bit of advice really,

My Aunty was diagnosed with Lung cancer (shes 40yrs old) about 6months ago, she had chemo and radiotherapy but they didnt help much and the cancer is still present, theyre going to try another really strong dose of chemotherapy but arent really hopeful and have told her to 'make the most of the time she has left' :worried:
She has two teenage children and a husband who are obviously distraught. :sad:
Me and the rest of our family want to do something special for her before she gets too ill but are unsure of what to do, we thought maybe having a 'gathering' of all the family but this just seems too sad :sad:

Any advice would be welcome
a very sad bex :sad: x x x x x x
 

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Very sorry to hear that news. It is a tough situation to be in...

I would think of your Auntie, and what she likes to do, and try to tailor it to her if at all possible. A professor of mine died of lung cancer and the last several months were very difficult to get through for her and her family. I would definitely try to do something for her sooner rather than later, as she's more likely to enjoy it now.

Possibly a vacation somewhere with her family where her extended family and friends can chip in what they can afford?
 

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Hi Bex,

I will be keeping you and your family in my thoughts.

Most people seem to have a list of things they would like to try or places they would like to go. Get everyone to search their memories to see if they can remember one. It could be as simple as trying a new restaurant or as exciting as sky diving depending on her health at the time. It is the thought that counts and I am sure any diversion from the daily worry will be welcome.

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I'm very so sorry about your aunt...I would ask her what she would like to do. I think she could use lots of help with the household chores and cooking. Her children and husband are probably so overwhelmed themselves, to handle things. Not having to worry about the small stuff will ease that burden and give them time to enjoy the time they have together. Your love and support will mean so much to her, I'm sure.
 

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Hi Bex, I'm so sorry to hear about your Auntie. I know it's very hard and everything seems so sad when you think of doing something for her. But it should be something that she would really enjoy, as would everyone around her. The more positive everyone around her stays, the better off she will be and so will her kids and husband. My mom-in-law passed due to cancer too, and I used to make her butter rum muffins - she loved them!

It sucks and it will be a hard road, but laugh with her, love her and share your precious memories with her. Talk about things, lots of things. We used to talk about the trees and leaves she could see out her window. No matter how she was feeling, if I would lean over and start singing the "I like to move it move it" song from Madagascar, she would start her feet moving with the beat.

My thoughts and prayers will be with you all to help you through this.
 

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Hi Bex,
I can really empathise.
My dad was diagnosed with lung cancer just before christmas.
He has no great plans but enjoys most being with his family. The radiotherapy made him really tired and the breathlessness is a real problem and we are just currently so greatful for a good day or two.
I should imagine your aunty will be a bit wiped out by the chemo so elaborate plans may be difficult.
A big family get together would be my option and make it a day to remember for you all.
 

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I really feel for you and your family (((hugs)))

My mum died just before christmas aged 46 from breast cancer. Last February 6 months after she was told it was terminal, we had a big family gathering for a weekend at a country house where my parent's renewed their wedding vows. It was a lovely weekend and something we'll remember forever.
 

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Hello Bex,
I am sorry to hear your sad news. If your Aunty lives in the same part of the country as you do, I am sure you can find some beautiful places to take her, whether for a meal or just to look at the beautiful scenery. On a practical note is she getting some emotional and preactical support from the Macmillan Nurses or similar. As she is so ill she may automatically qualify for some DLA under the Special Rules. I know money does not solve everything but it can make things easier.
x Lola
 

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Hi Bex

First of all I am so sorry to hear this sad news. My thoughts and prayers are with you, your Aunt and your family.
Family gatherings can be very sad but also it could give everyone chance to remember stories, and the good times that they shared. maybe use the day to create a scrap book of photos and memorys that everyone can add to.
then your aunt could have something to look at to make her feel better when times get rough and her children will have something to treasure for ever.

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bex,
I am sorry of your news for you and your family. My aunt had lung cancer and they removed part of her lung. She is doing better now but still has problems but so far no sign of the cancer returning. I am not sure this is something they can do for your aunt but can check into. Let us know how things are going for you and your family.
 

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Hi everyone

Thank you so much for your replies,

I spoke to my aunt a few days ago, and her pain is now under better control, so she is happier and able to get out and about a bit more :)

Its my Nans 80th birthday soon and we are arranging a party for her, my aunt and her family are hoping to attend, so that will be nice and will get all the family together and take the pressure off the party being just for my aunt, so wont be so sad.

We are still planning to do something special just for my aunt, possibly a health spa day for all us girls and we are also looking into a balloon ride :)

Thanks again for all your kind words and suggestions
Bex x x x x x x x x x
 

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Sadly my aunt took a turn for the worse a few weeks ago :eek:hno: we rushed up to see her and sadly a few days later she passed away :(
It was really upseting to see her suffering so much :eek:hno:
We stayed with my uncle and cousins for a few weeks after the funeral, which has been really tough and sad, but we are back home now.

Still feeling sad :( and kind of wierd to think she's actually gone :worried:
But weve all got lots of nice memories of her, which we will always remember.

a very sad ocean :( x x x x
 

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((( Ocean ))) I am so sorry for the loss of your aunt. It must be very hard for you and your family. I hope the good memories bring you much comfort.

Thinking of you at this difficult time.

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so sorry to hear thios sad news, but im also glad that your Aunt is in no more pain, its so horrid watching loves one in pain, knowing they are not going to ever get well, so sad, i hope you are all ok

sending you ((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))) Lin xxx
 

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My condolences to you and your family. It is never easy to lose a loved one. Just remember she will always have a place in your heart.

Take care,
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(((Ocean)))

You and your family have my condolences. It is always hard to loose a love one.

Be kind to yourself and rest when you can.

Love,
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Condolences to you and your family Bex, lots of hugs too!

:grhug::grhug::grhug::grhug::grhug::grhug:
 
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