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I am sulking.

I have had my hair cut by a 'nice mobile hair dresser' and did not set up a mirror in front of myself.

Only saw my hair after she'd chopped it all off and turned me into a man.

I am a man.

If I keep on changing I might look like a man called Ann. Ann Boleyn. Eyebrows don't seem to be growing any more = a Man called Ann who looks Permanently Surprised.

I am supposed to be a woman.

I may never leave the house again.

Any tricks to disguise lack of hair other than a hat?

I look like a mad head in a hat.

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Alwin,

What about a type of bandana (head band/scarf) and some dangly earrings!

I have even seen false hair that is fixed into a headscarf!

There is always the option of getting a good quality wig and asking an expert hairdresser to tweak/customise it a little for you!

I myself am thinking of options as am really not happy with the way my hair or lack of it is!

Hugs!

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Alwin, why not try some delicate eye make-up for the added feminine feel, does not have to be drastic , just some sutle colour and a little lip gloss, have very short hair myself and find this helps me feel better about my appearance with a touch of make-up and the addition of some nice earrrings..go for it..
Take care Ellen xxx:flowery::
 

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I'm sure you didn't exactly try to be funny, but you make me chuckle anyways. Depending on money situation, you could also go to a really nice place and get hair extensions. Otherwise, there is the old standby wig, hat and lots of makeup and jewels. Also you can dress exceptionally girly for a while with dresses and skirts.

I feel as if I need a picture now! There are ways to style very short hair so that it makes it look very feminine too... depends on the cut though. Personally, I am very impressed with the women who are brave to get the very short and chic cuts. Very confident women ;)
 

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I know many women with short hair ... several with REAL short hair , and I think they look marvelous, very stylish and chic.
Not to mention the ease of caring for it and the use of far less shampoo, and less drying time.
Given a few weeks I am sure you may have other opinions of really how terrific a change it is.
I think a woman with short hair exudes confidence , inner power, and mysteriousness.
 

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Thank you for your nice replies, but I notice none of you sent a rapid hair growth cure, so you are 'not all that' (as the youngsters say). Sorry to sound bitter and ungrateful, but my middle names are Anti Nail Bite Solution.

I still have not worked out how to send pictures. I did it once and managed to post an entire album instead of one picture.

Sinead O Connor I am not. Nor Einstein. Nor a speller.

I will never post a picture of this 'chic' (needs a 't' at the end) hair cut unless I wear one of my gardening hats which also look mad, but that's ok cos they are supposed to look mad. And I can actually remove them. Perhaps it is retribution for upsetting my family and friends by wearing mad hats?

Some of us look great at 20 with very short hair, but at 44 need some help hiding.

Seems to me my nose has kept growing whilst my eyes chose to shrink. I have more wrinkles and lines than most ladies in their 70s.

It makes my neck look thicker and with broad shoulders I did not need that. I should face it I suppose - my neck is thicker. I don't want a thick neck. I don't want to be a bull dog any more than I want to be a man.

Worst of it is the hair cut is exactly the same hair cut my mother in law has had for 40 years. This stings. I do not like the message. I do not like my hair. I do not like anything about it.

Less shampoo - true. However, it takes longer than long hair becasue every single morning when I wake up it has folded itself upright and is sticking out all over like a hedgehog, so I have to paste it down with water so I look like I've gone mad (again).

The crown at the back is particularly keen on displaying like some mad bird set of tail feathers. Perhaps I have become a muppet?

I cannot use a hair dryer for toffee. When my hair was long I had to be cut out of the hair brush whilst trying to blow dry on more than one occassion. Now I cannot work out how you are meant to even get hold of hair with a brush when the hair is only an inch long. And anyway, I can't get my arms up there.

I think I am suffering for being unsympathetic to friends who did not like their hair in the past, who dyed their eye brows and turned into Doctor Spock. Particularly my own mother who, lacking eyebrows following the 60s fashion of removing the lot, then painting them on, found hers no longer grew back either. She eventually had some tatooed on and looked extremely scarey for weeks until the dye faded a bit. What did I do? I laughed until tears were streaming down my face.

I am a very sorry woman right now I can tell you.

You know when your hair cut is a hit because people mention it. They at least say 'oh, you've had your hair cut'. When nobody mentions your hair and they only look at your head when they think you are not looking you know something is amiss. It's called hair.

Happy New Year all.
 

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Alwin - I've been there (I cut my own hair short many years ago) and I know how you feel but I have to say you have given me the first laugh of the New Year. I keep chuckling at your description.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Thanks mate xxxxx
 

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Alwin:

When I lost my hair (cause of medication) I had what was left "buzz" cut. I looked like an egg with big ears and a very large nose (I have my dads nose in exactally the same size - my most hated feature). I also wear glasses, so that only added to the Adam Ant look I was sporting!

I never thought of myself as attractive, but I was happy with "cute", however I couldn't even find the "cute" there anymore!

I dispised the baby bow look that I got if I used a headband, I already have blonde hair, so coloring it was out of the question, I decided that I had to be proud that I was still here, and just told everyone who asked, that my hair would be the envy when it grew back!

And actually it did....it took about 9 months before I felt like a female again, however it was blonde and curly and thicker than it had ever been...repayment for the months of agony?

Anyway, I used more moisturized on my face to distract from the wrinkles (I was 47 and looked 60) I put little clips (butterflies, dragon flies...never BOWS...YUK) on the whisps when they were long enough and as I never wear makeup I didn't change that, I just wore bright colored tops to make my face look happier.

I know what you are going through, however, we have so much to be grateful for that this is just one of the small inconviences of our lives...It could be worse, it could not grow back...I worried about that alot in the beginning.

If you really feel awful, check out your local thrift shops, they may have a nice wig you can get inexpensively...

I am sorry I have no "quick fixes" just know that we love you no matter what!

Stephanie
 

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I think I needed that Stephani. Thanks.

I am glad you think it is funny Loopy. Just you wait - I will have my revenge!!!!!!!! :smile:

I have just fed everybody something indescribable and disgusting from a Japanese supermarket. Label said they were fish balls. More like rubber balls. Made your teeth sqeak when you bit into them.

So we are off out for a walk to forget about it.

I have put some make up on and spiked the top of my head and tucked the side bits behind my ears with a few whisps in front of my ears. They are determined to curl outwards like second ears rather than look sophisticated like on Sharon Ozborn, but it's hair.

Funny you should mention moisturiser - I've done that first too.

I think I am going to find out about teeth bleaching as well. It's 3.35pm, so it will be very dark by 5pm as we walk home.

I am so glad you hair grew back better than ever. I know a lot of people loose their hair long term - think the medication is what has thinned mine and started to take out my eyebrows. In all fairness I had enough eyebrow to lose a bit anyway.

I have only recently started to wear glasses and have decided these do actually look better with short hair. I might not be a sex kitten (bleeeuuuk, anyway) but I think I am starting to look so different nobody will even know it is me.

I could start using a different name ... could be fun.

Any suggestions for a name appropriate to my new character?

By the way - that's all that really matters ... to be loved. Thank you.

Off to exude confidence, inner power and mysteriousness .... struggling with the ear rings. I have loads and loads cos I love them, but only one of each cos I keep vaccuuming them up.

I have decided to use my spare 'ear holes' - have worn one in each ear since became sensible and mature (oh yes i am) but have decided to use the spares I made with a darning needle as a teenager so I can get away with 3 odd ones.

This could be a mid life crisis could it not?

Oh well - xxxxx :love: :love: :love:
 

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Hi Alwin,

I didn't reply earlier as I had no "useful" suggestions but I have to agree with Loopy, you really have made us chuckle.

I have had several disastrous haricuts (some self inflicted when I used to work with horses and just really didn't care) and always vow I'll grow them out, trouble is my hair is neither curly nor straight - I have lots of it (despite the frightening amounts that fall out) but it's really fine so basically uncontrollable...anyways, it always ends up getting the chop. It seems to have this mad ability to grow pretty well for 6 weeks and then slow to the slowest of slow leaving me in halfway limbo for months.

Maybe this time I'll get there - I'd like to but we'll see.

Those odd earrings sound great whatever they might signify.

hugs :hug:
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You have made me chuckle as well, I do promise that I am laughing with not at, am now reminiscing some of the appauling hair do's that I have sported myself, (not just the blonde loose perm that I had in the eighties!) sometimes colour disasters, there was the time when I decide to go from pillar-box red to blonde, that was never going to end well was it, winding up with green roots and a shade of orange that was not good, as well as it being so dry and damaged that I had to ensure never to be near a naked flame. I often sport a 'survivor' haircut, it's a tip I picked up from a reality tv show, pull the hair into a ponytail that sticks straight up from the top of your head and chunk straight across with the kitchen scissors, apparently you get instant layers, i keep trying with it and regretting it. Perhaps it will settle down in a few days, and you will grow to love it, or how about (and its not a hat suggestion) a pair of sparkley deeliboppers to draw attention upwards and away from the hair? Sorry I'll get me coat now!

Actually, joking aside, hang onto the quirky and funny way you have of looking at life, and it really is the person inside that is important, no matter what lupus, the medications or a dodgy hairdresser does to us!

PS multiple odd earrings is a darn fine look!
 

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Yeeeeeeeeers .. no rapid hair growth solutions I note.

I too did the loose perm in the eighties. That WAS well hidden by a bandana, as previously suggested. It was however, even better disgusied by the fact that my husband's 'loose perm' was even bigger (and worse) at the time, so he got all the attention.

I am replying because I am intrigued by what a 'deelibopper' might be???

It is a funny thing Flutterby, but I never imagined you having multi coloured hair.

I did the same thing in my youth going from dyed black to dyed white blonde. It went green and yellow and all sorts of shades in big patches, so I had a near skin head and dyed it back to brown. But I was only 16 and everybody thought I was being a punk rocker and did not give me a second glance ... I don't think.

Now I am mature and sensible I prefer not to have that look.

Funny what you find out about people on this site isn't it?

Thanks for helpful and kind advice. Will come here BEFORE next hair cut.

Take care all

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Alwin...I feel guilty to chuckle...:rolleyes: but you have such a way of writing things that make even the awful sound silver lined...it truly is a special quality you posess.

Since you are looking for short term solutions...Possibly you could accentuate another part of your bod to take the attention away from your hair? A wonderbra maybe????????? HAHA :lol: Then everyone would be looking at your boobs instead of your hair and there would be NO question that you are NOT a man :)

Hope it grows back fast!
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Sharon, I used to wear those things back in the days when they were all made of itchy lace so you went round scratching like a hound and came home with big red marks all over your chest.

Suffice to say they no longer fit.

In these enlightened and weighty days, however, I do not believe having breasts proves one is not a man.

In fact, I am beginning to think it is the law that when we get over 40 everybody has to have breasts - male and female!

PS HAPPY BIRTHDAY SHARON.
 

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You don't remember deelyboppers, what were you doing in the eighties woman?! They were a plastic headband with wobbly springlike attachments with a variety of bobbles bouncing around on top,



I was last seen wearing a rather fetching pair of purple sparkley ones just a month ago, but only because they went quite well with my butterflywings!

Hope the hair is 'growing' on you as the days go by!
 

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:wow: Are they uuuuuuuugly!!!!!!!!! :what: :what:

You must have looked like a muppet! :rotfl:

And there were others wearing these contraptions you say? :blink:

I am absolutely gobsmacked! :blink: :blink: :wacko: :bounce:

Why would you DO that to yourself? :hide:

My eyes nearly popped out of my head when I saw that picture.

I think I would rather shave off the rest of my hair and go around with my wooly bob hats attached to my breasts!

Fair play to you girl! I am sure you looked absolutely FASCINATING with your wings and your .... thingumies on your bonce!

Great look - really. I am becoming more impressed by the post. :smile:
 
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