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tonight i got some very bad news,my sister who's son was beaten up and had to have emergency surgery on his brain has just found out that she has breast cancer,the news is devastating to all the family.
i am saying a prayer for her tonight. It is very hard as to know what to say at the moment as my head is in turmoil.
anyway thank you all for the support everyone gave me in the past.

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Dear Sandy :sad:

What terrible news to get. It must be such a worrying time for your sister and all of you. Sometimes one wonders how much a person can take :hug:

All you can hope for is that they caught her cancer early and that whatever interventions are necessary will be as minimal as possible. The only positive thing is that breast cancer cure rates are very high and I hope to goodness your sister's luck will change and that she is one of those people. You sound like a very close family and I know you will all be there to help her through this. The early days are the most shocking because its so hard to absorb that kind of news :hug:

How is your nephew doing by the way? I often think of him.

Much love and strength to you and your sister
Joan:rose:
 

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Hi Joan

Thank you for responding,i do hope my sister will pull through ok,i have not slept properly for the worry in the past few days.
My nephew is doing ok they fixed his teeth, he has had his jaw and cheeks fixed and he is getting there but it will take time for the mental scars to heal.Luckily they managed to save his eye but his profile has changed a bit.I sometimes think the stress of him has not helped my sister, as of all the family our healths have suffered with what happened to my nephew.I am worried what he is going through at the moment, as it has been a horrible past few months.
The family are all saying their prayers and hope she will come through this.

Love from Sandy
 

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Hi Sandy,

I'm very sorry to hear your news and will definitely keep you and your sister in my thoughts.

I can only imagine how worrying all this must be.

:grouphug2:

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Dear Sandy, I remember what happened to your Nephew, it was dreadful. I am so sorry for you and your Sister that you have to go through this.

I hope she has lots of good accurate information and plenty of support.
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Hi Sandy

I am so sorry that your sister has been diagnosed with breast cancer:sad:.i found out last may that my younger sister had breast cancer to.It is scarey and hard to watch your sister go through chemo and radiation but if it does get rid of the cancer it is well worth it.I dont know if you are able to help your sister out in ways like taking her to chemo if she has to go or just be there for her to vent to you.You would be amazed how much those little things would help her out.Everyone will tell you to try not to stress yourself out so you dont get sick but i know from instance it is easier to say then to do but do try your best to do exactly that.We are here for you

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Hi again Sandy

Im glad to hear your nephew is making good physical recovery. Of course, as you say, the mental scars are often so much harder to heal. Poor kid. :worried:

While its hard to know what triggers cancer in some individuals, I firmly believe though that severe levels of stress can make a serious contribution. Im sorry to hear your family's health has suffered so much since your Nephews assault:hugbetter:

I agree with Tammy that at this stage its the practical support that is important. It will also help you, as a family, to feel like you are helping in the best possible way.

Keep in touch when you can. It sounds like you could do with a bit of support yourself :hug:

Luv n stuff
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Hi Sandy

My mum went through breast cancer in 2000. She had a masectomy, tamoxifen treatment and has come out the otherside, fit and well.

I remember the shock of hearing her tell me she had cancer. It takes a while to process information like that, really it does.

The most helpful thing my mum felt was to have me practically support her.
Take her to the hospital , be there when she woke up etc.
Go for a walk with her. Going along to appointments and taking down information and being able to repeat it back to her.
Underlining important things I heard from professionals about not letting other people take over what they think is best for her, its her cancer.

This might seem like a lot of information right now.

I think just being there with her , not behind or infront of her 'journey' but alongside is the best advice I can give. At her pace.

Although the initial shock is natrual, its also a stage and try to remember that the treatments and outcomes statistically are so much better than before.

What happened to your nephew was dreadful. Wish him a healthy recovery.

Hoping you can all draw on the love and support of friends and family.

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Hey Sandy

Big hugs being sent you and your sisters way. My mother was diagnosed with breast cancer a couple of months after I got married in 2005. She was picked up on routine mammogram. He lump was right at the back of the breast and she wouldn't have found it until it got really big. It was a worrying time for all but she has been clear on every check since her chemo and radiotherapy and is now back working. It unfortunately didn't stop her smoking!

I will send thoughts your way for you, your sister and her family too and I sincerely hope things get better for you all!

Take care

Claire xxx
 

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Thinking of you

Just to say hello and let you know I am thinking of you. My sister had a breast cancer diagnosis last year; went for surgery and then the lump and node they took tested negative. They are still perplexed as the lump biopsy on two occasions was definitely positive. My sister is still terrified that something is lurking. Our mother had breast cancer at 45yrs but because she was adopted we had/have no idea whether there is a significant genetic link.The best way I could help was to go to appointments with her.. and be the shoulder to cry on when it was all too much. I wish your whole family well.
Take care of yourselves..:worried:

Claire
 
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