OK, so I'm confused as ****. I've dated my gf for a while now and she's been going through a flare for about three months. When she went into her flare it all happened very fast. She started acting very different and just plain mean. Since her flare-up our relationship has been a constant push and pull. I kind of feel like I am in limbo most of the time, but I know I have to be there for her. Everything was perfect before this started happening, and then within a couple of weeks, it was like I was dating someone else. She became sick and wasn't thinking rationally. I love her and would never leave her but is this normal for Lupus and relationships? I think I'm being very patient (especially for me!) but I guess I need some more advice. She'll be so excited to talk to me one moment and then in a matter of minutes change her tune and get incredibly cranky and mean. She also forgets about me all the time since her flare-up (which I understand Lupus can affect the mind), but how do you forget to call or think about me? I've never seen something change someone so drastically...