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Hi Ryan, you know it occurs to me that when your girlfriend isn't calling you for a couple days, she might just be plain too sick to do anything. She's not ignoring you. It's just that she has no energy even to pick up a telephone, much less carry on a conversation.

I'd been married almost 20 years when I got sick with this business. It was a massive shakeup to our relationship and we both had to learn to be together differently. Sometimes I am just too sick, tired, in pain to be a good partner. My husband has learned that it doesn't mean I don't love him. Only that my body has put limits on what I can do.

Most of us are used to doing as we intend. If we are a bit tired, we just push a bit harder. But once a person is really ill with a chronic illness, particularly in a flare, life changes. Push all you want..... might as well be pushing a great big ol' boulder.

I know this is hard and frustrating. You deserve commendations for standing by your girl. She needs love and understanding. This disease robs us of careers, income, friends, activities, hobbies..... it would be horrible to let it rob your pretty girl of love.

Hugs and good wishes,
Sunny