Personally I think that some stress is a good thing, I think it serves a purpose and is a neccesary part of life, but extreme stress is a really different matter, and that definately in my opinion will kick off lupus symptoms and send things out of control, and then it's hard to get things back under control. So I guess like other things in life it is a matter of finding a balance, a stress that keeps you 'sharp' and that which sends you over the edge of the abyss! (just my take on stress anyway!)