Hi there, I couldn't help feeling very touched by your post.
I have hd diabetes for 28yrs and as a result of this have nld which has caused terrible scarring down my shins so i can never wear shorts or skirts, i don't even go swimming with my kids now i am awaitin diagnosis of lupus or MCTD, its definately one just not sure which.
I really understnd having those feelings.
When i met my husband i had one chronic illness and i also had 4 children, then i began to get sick 9 mths ago after we had our own son, was first dignosed with hypothyroid and now have had such bad joint problems and pain chronic pain that m becoming disabled.
My husband has excepted all of these things and always says he loves me and will stick with me whatever he loves the person i am and the illness i have don't change wo am i am in myself even if there are days when i have ttacks from diabetes and forget things or am not quite as i was due to illness and medication.
Anyway after all that what i have been trying to say is that if you have been strong enough to deal with the effects of your illness and are independant then your bf will not feel put on and if he loves you and sees that you are struggling then he would only want to help you. I am very
independant and sometimes my husband gets frustrated with me becuse i still want to try and do everything even when i feel really sick!!
I think that you should just be really honest and explain how you feel and you might be suprised by the response.
Its true to have a lasting love it means we love whats on the inside not the outside, everyone loses their looks eventually or gain weight or lose their hair, people have accidents and become disabled.
I 've learnt that things can actually be destroyed by me not feeing good enough, you are good enough, never do tht to yourself.
Sorry for rambling on, i really hope that things work out for you

Lots of Luck
Cassie