i need some help! i'm generally a selfish person already, but i need to know if i'm being TOO selfish. here's the scenario:
i live in a 2 bedroom townhouse with me & my girlfriend on one side and my bff/roomate on the other. my bff and i do pretty much EVERYTHING together but a few days ago my lupus flared and i don't have the same attitude as i did before. i'm finding that everything she does gets under my skin. little things that normally wouldn't even matter make me wanna throw a pot at her head! for example, today i laid out all my nail polishes and got my area all set up to give myself a pedicure right before i got in the bath. (a little pick me since i've been so depressed lately) well, when i got out of the bath she was in my room polishing her toes.... in my area.... with my stuff. just the mere sight of this caused me to get extremely p!ssed. any other day i would have been fine with this.
me and my bff came to be roomates in the first place because i took her in after she had a bad breakup with her ex. i was in a 1 bdrm place then so we decided to get a 2 bdrm. i'm a very private person, she's not. i clean, she doesn't. i pay bills on time. she don't. we never see eye to eye on money situations and i always end up contributing more to 'the house' than she does. all of these things caused me to be extremely stressed and (i believe) brought on this flare.
so how do you tell your bff that her every breath gets on your last nerve and you wanna move back on your own when you know that she still isn't finacially stable enough to be on her own? i'm not the kind of person who can leave a friend stuck out, but being here for her is killing me!
i live in a 2 bedroom townhouse with me & my girlfriend on one side and my bff/roomate on the other. my bff and i do pretty much EVERYTHING together but a few days ago my lupus flared and i don't have the same attitude as i did before. i'm finding that everything she does gets under my skin. little things that normally wouldn't even matter make me wanna throw a pot at her head! for example, today i laid out all my nail polishes and got my area all set up to give myself a pedicure right before i got in the bath. (a little pick me since i've been so depressed lately) well, when i got out of the bath she was in my room polishing her toes.... in my area.... with my stuff. just the mere sight of this caused me to get extremely p!ssed. any other day i would have been fine with this.
me and my bff came to be roomates in the first place because i took her in after she had a bad breakup with her ex. i was in a 1 bdrm place then so we decided to get a 2 bdrm. i'm a very private person, she's not. i clean, she doesn't. i pay bills on time. she don't. we never see eye to eye on money situations and i always end up contributing more to 'the house' than she does. all of these things caused me to be extremely stressed and (i believe) brought on this flare.
so how do you tell your bff that her every breath gets on your last nerve and you wanna move back on your own when you know that she still isn't finacially stable enough to be on her own? i'm not the kind of person who can leave a friend stuck out, but being here for her is killing me!