Naz,
I agree with all the responses. It took me approx. 2 years to realize I had to slow down. I made the disease much worse by pushing myself that I ended up having to leave my job completely. Now that Im home, I still pace myself and only do what Im up too doing. Takes all I have somedays just to shower, blow dry hair and make dinner. Then I have to lift the fork to eat and Im too exhausted. I usually rest before I eat. Take your day off, pamper yourself, watch television or do anything else that brings you pleasure and relaxation. You deserve it. My children now understand, and my friends. My friends see me alot at times, then other times, not enough. All depends on the Lupus and how I feel. I think the hardest judgement is ourselves against ourself. I was one to do it all without help (Work, family, home, social, etc....) I still dont any help, but allow it sometimes.... Im also not working so have more time to do things...Ive learned that life does not end if the laundry sits over a week. The dust on tables is there. I keep all clutter picked up and taught kids to do their own laundry. Its a personal thing when you are willing to accept Lupus is with you for life. If you feel good, then do it. The pain and fatigue is my worst enemy of Lupus. Take care of yourself please. :rose: