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I don't know whether to say congratulations or offer you my sympathy :)

I do understand your not wanting to fight it. I have been in that kind of position over work before. The employer certainly shouldn't be firing anyone for being sick and in some ways we don't want them to get away with it but that all depends on how stressful fighting it is going to be.

The stress of certain jobs is certainly something to be taken into account. I have been off work now since August 07 and only back working a few hours a week since March this year. The important thing for me is that most of those few hours a week are done at home, when I feel up to it, with no-one staring over my shoulder.

My job wasn't stressful in the usual sense because I was my own boss but I taught people English in companies and I just found coping with that amount of concentration very stressful. Just staying alert and responsive for a two hour lesson, followed by another and then another was sooooo hard. I now have one day where I have 2 hours followed by 3. I have only done the full day three times since starting back as it is so hard to do and some weeks I just haven't been able to.

I'm very lucky as I can change direction and build up far more business from home (I also did translation and that's nearly all I do now) but for others it is not so easy.

My rheumy would like me to stop working but understands that financially it's not really possible and also, when my brain can be counted as "present", I enjoy working even if it does very much have to be at my pace.

One of the hardest things for me to deal with is the brain fog issue with concentration and memory problems. They make teaching very hard to do. At least with translation, if it doesn't come to me, I can leave the documnt five minutes, come on here, have a cup of tea and then go back to it. I can't do that in class. I have to be "active" and push and encourage etc. and I simply don't have the energy.

Yesterday a translation colleague said to me "but surely you need that one day's teaching to see people" - well no, I would be deligted not to see anyone if seeing them means teaching them!! :rotfl:
Thankfully I see plenty of other people and am not yet ready to become a hermit!

Financially it is always a big question and I know for many people living off whatever disability they can get is not an option but, often, we think we couldn't manage with less and we can. When we HAVE to, we find ways of doing it. I know I'm not the only one on this board to have survived a long "rest" period. Of course, it all depends on your individual circumstances and only you know what is right for you.

Life in general can be pretty paradoxical. Sure it is not great to be kind of forced to stay at home through illness but, if I hadn't been, I would never have had the time to develop my translation business which is what I really wanted to do (and also means 2 hours less driving - and fuel - every day).

Being self-employed in Belgium is not at all recommended if you're sick as the disability system doesn't work the same way but, on the other hand I have no stress. If I feel I can't do a job, I just say no - that's it - no one shouts or screams or even raises eyebrows, no is no, that's it. I work pretty funny hours. I'm hopeless early in the morning, so I come on here, get my English back in gear, browse the web a bit, have a chat with a friend on msn and then, gradually get going. I then might work for a couple of hours or even 3 or 4 if I'm feeling good. Then take the dog for a walk, pick up the kids, relax a bit and then, sometimes, I'll work another hour or two in the evening. Generally if I do all that in one day, the next day is pretty much a rest day. Rather like my brain has fried itself :lol:

crikey, you have my life story now :rolleyes:
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