I am newly diagnosed with Lupus, about 3 months ago. I've been going through it for probably about a year, but lately I just don't have the energy to do anything. I push through to make it through the day at work and by the time I get home, I'm so exhausted, all I want to do is lay down. I have a 12 1/2 year old daughter, a 13 year old step-son and a wonderful husband. He and I have been together for almost 7 years, but just married this past September 1. He and I have been having a very difficult time because of my illness. I have always been a very healthy, and extremely active person before my illness. I always took care of him, the kids, the house, the yard, pretty much everything. He's having a difficult time coming to terms with the fact that I can't do all that anymore. I think he has been in denial. He was always saying, "we'll figure this out and we'll get you better". I don't think he really ever thought that it could be a chronic illness that I would have to deal with the rest of my life. Because I don't physically look sick, I think it's hard for him to understand and come to terms with. I don't know what to do. I just can't be the person that I used to be and I've tried to tell him that. I may go into remission and be wonderful again, but right now I'm not and he just can't get that. He also gets upset because I'm not as socially active as I used to be. I just don't feel like interacting with people and being "on". What do I do? What do I say to him to make him understand? I feel like I'm living in my own personal **** right now. I don't even enjoy life anymore. HELP!!!!!!:worried: