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:mad: These days life around the apartment building I live in has become childish and full of misunderstandings. Used to be that every day, or nearly so, we would meet in the lobby and chat and talk to spend some time together, most of us are on SSD or SSI, the younger ones of us anyway. But lately there have been numerous misunderstandings, fights and an enormous amount of gossiping.:( No one seems to get along with anyone else, my neighbors doesn't talk to me anymore, in fact I haven't seen them in several days. it is both a relief as well as something I miss. I like the couple as people, but they do things that are disturbing and disheartening. Their problems are the worst, (in their minds), anyone who says anything about their own problems is looking for pity, they are very negative and think they are always right, and then there's the racist comments that seem to flow from their mouths unending:wall: I don't have much in common with them nor do I agree with them on the racist views, which by the way are so strange that you wouldn't believe, they actually think that Osama Bin Laden is in Washington state:eek: ...but silence is very lonely. No one comes out to talk anymore and we are all holed up in our seperate apartments, silent and alone. Sometimes that is refreshing, but you can cut the tension with a knife, it doesn't do much for my stress level.:screamin: I hope that either someone moves out, my neighbors seem to be the instigators in most of the disturbances and fights, and new people or person moves in, but that I cannot count on. I know that in a few days I will be very occupied with Keegan the puppy who will be home:dog: :eek:k: and things will settle down for me at least. Used to I would try to mediate between people, but I haven't the desire or energy to do so anymore. there are people with way stronger personalities than me and if they want to get along they will. I know the manager is fed up with the arguements, the complaints and phone calls that people direct toward her, and I definately do not want to be the subject of one of these calls. I worry because I think that the neighbor will be vindictive and make false reports on me if the puppy barks even once.:worried: Two reports and I would have to get rid of the dog or move out, and I don't want to do either, of course I may be worrying unecessarily, but these things run through my mind. Any ideas how to lesson the stress around here, or even just for me? Any help would be greatly appreciated. Karly:(
 

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(((((karly)))))

I really do feel for you :sad: what an awful situation!

I'm not really sure what to advise??..
to be honest I don't like the sound of the couple you mentioned at all,I would be very cautious around them & try to limit any contactwith them,within reason.It's a shame that things have gone so awry with the other tenants too :worried:

I think you're right not to intervene because as you said the manager is already fed up with the situation & most importantly is the fact that it is your home.I wouldn't 'rock that boat'.

you obviously liked the previous social side to your living arrangements,so what about considering other ways of meeting new people?maybe inquire about some local classes you could join?taking your pup for a walk will be another form of socialising.

karly I'm sorry I can't be of more help :sad: I hope someone else comes along with some advice.
I hope things improve for you soon..maybe things will just 'blow over' soon on their own accord!

take care karly x
 

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Hi Karly

You have my sympathy. I cannot bear being around people who are judgmental and cynical, and there's nothing worse than getting swamped in a whole lot of others people's squabbles and troubles, but lonliness is a terrible thing too.

I do not know how unwell you are, or if you are the sort of person that could go and do something outside of your appartment by yourself? Like Karen - I can recommend getting out of there at least a couple of times a week, if at all possible.

I am fortunate in that I am able, and comfortable with going anywhere by myself, but do understand that not everybody has the ability or confidence.

However, it might be worth while having a look to see what is going on around you. Money can be a problem, but it is worth making 'me time' a priority on the money front. I would light my house with candles and wrap myself in a blanket all day to save on bills rather than stay in becasue it would actually make me ill fairly quickly if I were surrounded by what you describe.

I go to yoga lessons to have a change of scenery whilst improving / maintaining my health, and to meet others without being in a situation where I HAVE to converse. I tend to work alone quietly, and only talk to others when I am in the mood. Yoga is a mainly quiet activity.

I feel really calm and refreshed afterwards. I take the journey there slowly, come back slowly. I am better able to avoid people I don't really like becasue I am more comfortable with myself and my life away from them.

If I were following instructions in a book at home instead of going to a class I would get the moves wrong and probably give up quick. It is the getting out and the chance of meeting more like-minded people on neutral territory that is so relaxing as well as the exercises.

Hope you get some ideas.

Take care of yourself Karly.

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I've got a few things in mind

:p I started working on my stamp collection which has been a source of satisfaction for me and I can do it when I don't feel well, basically anytime. And if I get a check from the government (to stimulate the economy) I may buy a digital camera and begin taking photos again, something I have always enjoyed.:wink2: Now that the weather is getting better I will be able to get my binoculars out and go bird watching in the country or in the local state park. That will at least get me out of the apartment and away from the conflict.:wink2: Thanks for the ideas, Karly
 
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