Lupus and menopause

I am still new at this lupus stuff, for years I had all symtoms, then a year and 1/2 ago it showed up in my blood work, I am wondering if it was all the stress I was under, anyway, I just left my Dr whom I had been with for 10 years, in the past few years he has been difficult to talk to, I traveled 2hrs to see him, we talked a bit(5mins) then he left, I waited and waited then finally I got up and they said he was with his next patient, I think I should have left along time ago, I didnt get to ask about my meds,blood wk, and he was very rude, this isnt the first time, the only reason I say that is that I was contacted by a nurse through my insurance company, she said that she was assigned to me, when I told her some of things I was going through, she said that I probly should seek a new doctor, I am so frustrated and scared, and on the verge of crying, I take care of my mom during the week and work fulltime and miss my husband and cat... But my real question does menopause affect Lupus. I am so glad I found this site. Thank you Terri