thanks everyone for the replies, they made me feel better. You all understand. Yep, they all know I have lupus, I just don't think anyone has taken the time to really know what it is. I was pretty upset yesterday, and I told my husband about it too, and he said basically what Taree said, to tell them that I am just lowering my intellegence to their level. I had to write to see waht everyone else says to that because I know it will happen again. I do have APS, and I am goiing through a little bit a flare now I think, my tests aren't right & I feel terrible (pain is the worst & the tiredness). Anyhow, these people are probably from 35-42 in age. We don't have a HR dept at my work, it's a pretty small company. Well, next time it happens, if it happens again, maybe I won't be afraid to say what I feel, I mean if they are cruel enough to say stuff like that, I shouldn't worry about what I say to them in response either, right?