:sad:I would definitely seek out a second opinion from another respected OB-gyn even if you have to travel. Miscarriage is so common, at least 33% of the women I know who have children now had 1 or more prior miscarriages. They were reassured it was probably just a fluke and things would be fine the next time (& it was true just about every time!).
This doctor seems to be jumping to some pretty big conclusions in your case based on not very much. The only thing I can think of is he is incorporating your age into the equation too, but I don't think at 36 that statistic he quoted should be that low even if you do have APS (which it sounds like you actually don't officially have yet).
There are some proactive steps you can take to prepare for the next pregnancy, like seeking out another opinion and asking about going on low dose aspirin in advance to be extra cautious (which is what I did after consulting with my high risk OB-gyn team).
I think you have every reason to be hopeful for the future; one miscarriage that is very early is quite likely to be NOT due to something systematic or likely to cause future problems. Good luck & I hope you can find a better OB-gyn that you can feel more comfortable with...
This doctor seems to be jumping to some pretty big conclusions in your case based on not very much. The only thing I can think of is he is incorporating your age into the equation too, but I don't think at 36 that statistic he quoted should be that low even if you do have APS (which it sounds like you actually don't officially have yet).
There are some proactive steps you can take to prepare for the next pregnancy, like seeking out another opinion and asking about going on low dose aspirin in advance to be extra cautious (which is what I did after consulting with my high risk OB-gyn team).
I think you have every reason to be hopeful for the future; one miscarriage that is very early is quite likely to be NOT due to something systematic or likely to cause future problems. Good luck & I hope you can find a better OB-gyn that you can feel more comfortable with...
