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My Mum died

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:cry: I Have not been here for a while ,because on the 8th oct my mum died. I can not believe it, and the worry has made me very ill, dont know what to do!!:worried:
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So sorry to hear about your Mum passing away!

I have not been in that situation so cant even imagine how you are feeling and how its effecting your health!

Lots of hugs!

((((((((June)))))))) :hugbetter:

I'm really sorry to hear of your mum's passing... :(

Please try to take good care of yourself during this hard time....

My sincere condolences to you and your family...


So very sorry to hear about your Mum, my heart goes out to you and your family. Please look after yourself and if need be, contact your medical team to help you through this. Dont go through this on your own, get as much help as possible and theres lots of brilliant listeners on here when you need to talk.

Lots of love and heartfelt sympathy

Gail xxx
My heartfelt condolences June :sad:

Losing one's Mam is just so very, very hard. I'm not surprised the worry is making you ill :hugbetter: I lost my Mam a month before I went into the biggest flare of my life. I hope you can talk to your doctor about how you are feeling?

I will be thinking of you at this very sad time
Hi June,

My sympathies are with you and your family.

The stress from such a loss can definitely set off a flare. I know your world is turned upside down right now but make sure you continue to eat well, stay up on your medications and try to get some rest. If it gets too bad let your doctor know.

:grhug: for you,
June :hug:
I'm so very sorry.

Take great care of yourself
I'm sorry for your loss. Words can become trite in light of the grief you have. My best advice from personal experience...allow yourself to grieve. Don't try to be strong or allow anyone to tell you it is time to move on. Your mom was obviously a very important person in your life. Why wouldn't you grieve and why should you apologize. I think it would be much sadder if you didn't greive for her.
Time ( and it is never moves fast enough in this situation) brings acceptance but erase the hurt of missing your mom. What it does do is make the raw hole in your heart become a cubbyhole to hold all those precious feelings of love you had for each other, cherished memories and the good times you shared. It just takes time
My dearest June,

I'm sincerely sorry to hear of your loss. Your post strikes a particular chord wit me right now as we have almost lost my father a couple of times recently and he is still extremely unwell.

I don't know what to say. I don't think that words can do it in such situations.

Sending the gentlest of strengthening hugs winging its way to you.

Dear June
I am so sorry to hear about the sad loss of your mum.
You must take things slowly and not expect too much from yourself.
Thinking of you and your family. Take care.
Love and hugs
Dear June,
8th October is very recent. I am so sorry to hear this. My Father died this summer in pretty odd circumstances and everyone here helped me so much.
Coming here gives you something to hang on to. Please keep us in touch with how you are doing.
x Lola

You and your family have my deepest sympathy.
Please take care of yourself.
Dear June

I am very sorry to hear about the grievous loss of your mum and send my sincere condolences.

Many strengthening hugs.

Thankyou Everyone, All your messages have given me great comfort, it means alot ! i will be around watching all your posts, but need to sit in the background at the moment, i pray for you all evey day to have pain free peaceful days regards june
Very sorry to hear about your loss. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Please take care of yourself through this difficult time.

I just had to share with you something. Maybe it won't mean much but it did to me. When I lost a dear friend of mine to cancer, one of her friends told me that my friend left the world and gave her a gift. I was thinking what, a gift? She said yes, she left this world giving me a gift and what better way to leave the world than to give someone you love a gift. I said what was it? She said "the gift of life". I was a little confused but she explained how she loved life and even through the illness she always lived, etc. etc. So I thought that was nice. But it wasn't until my grandmother passed away that I really realized what she said. I don't know why it took that long, but I then realized it. You love that person so much, they leave and they leave you with the gift of life. For you to laugh, live, smile, and go on and live just as they lived and just as they wanted you to. So I said to myself. My grandmother (who was like my mother, best friend in the world) has given me once last gift. A gift of life. To live, laugh, and get all sorts of memories and when I do she is right there in my heart.

Like I said, not sure if that kind of helps, but I wanted to share it with you.
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So sorry to hear of your mum passing away!! My mom passed away 1 1/2 years ago. I feel your grief. There is nothing like a Mom!!! I also went into a big flare of Lupus after her passing. My Rheum. doctor kept me on higher prednisone for a few months following. My sincere condolences!!
Dear June,

I was so sorry to hear of your mother's passing. Please, be extra patient with yourself during your grieving.

Let other's be there for you, and put yourself first for a long while..

Awww sweetie, I am so sorry to hear this. Your family is in my prayers.
Hi June, I am really sorry to hear about your mum, you are in my thoughts

(((((((((June))))))))))) I'm so sorry to hear this.

Give yourself lots of TLC to help you through this, I hope you have some kind of support network around you to help lighten the load? If not then you know we are always here for you :hug:

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