So very sorry to hear about your Mum, my heart goes out to you and your family. Please look after yourself and if need be, contact your medical team to help you through this. Dont go through this on your own, get as much help as possible and theres lots of brilliant listeners on here when you need to talk.
Losing one's Mam is just so very, very hard. I'm not surprised the worry is making you ill :hugbetter: I lost my Mam a month before I went into the biggest flare of my life. I hope you can talk to your doctor about how you are feeling?
I will be thinking of you at this very sad time
The stress from such a loss can definitely set off a flare. I know your world is turned upside down right now but make sure you continue to eat well, stay up on your medications and try to get some rest. If it gets too bad let your doctor know.
I'm sorry for your loss. Words can become trite in light of the grief you have. My best advice from personal experience...allow yourself to grieve. Don't try to be strong or allow anyone to tell you it is time to move on. Your mom was obviously a very important person in your life. Why wouldn't you grieve and why should you apologize. I think it would be much sadder if you didn't greive for her.
Time ( and it is never moves fast enough in this situation) brings acceptance but erase the hurt of missing your mom. What it does do is make the raw hole in your heart become a cubbyhole to hold all those precious feelings of love you had for each other, cherished memories and the good times you shared. It just takes time
8th October is very recent. I am so sorry to hear this. My Father died this summer in pretty odd circumstances and everyone here helped me so much.
Coming here gives you something to hang on to. Please keep us in touch with how you are doing.
Thankyou Everyone, All your messages have given me great comfort, it means alot ! i will be around watching all your posts, but need to sit in the background at the moment, i pray for you all evey day to have pain free peaceful days regards june
Very sorry to hear about your loss. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Please take care of yourself through this difficult time.
I just had to share with you something. Maybe it won't mean much but it did to me. When I lost a dear friend of mine to cancer, one of her friends told me that my friend left the world and gave her a gift. I was thinking what, a gift? She said yes, she left this world giving me a gift and what better way to leave the world than to give someone you love a gift. I said what was it? She said "the gift of life". I was a little confused but she explained how she loved life and even through the illness she always lived, etc. etc. So I thought that was nice. But it wasn't until my grandmother passed away that I really realized what she said. I don't know why it took that long, but I then realized it. You love that person so much, they leave and they leave you with the gift of life. For you to laugh, live, smile, and go on and live just as they lived and just as they wanted you to. So I said to myself. My grandmother (who was like my mother, best friend in the world) has given me once last gift. A gift of life. To live, laugh, and get all sorts of memories and when I do she is right there in my heart.
Like I said, not sure if that kind of helps, but I wanted to share it with you.
So sorry to hear of your mum passing away!! My mom passed away 1 1/2 years ago. I feel your grief. There is nothing like a Mom!!! I also went into a big flare of Lupus after her passing. My Rheum. doctor kept me on higher prednisone for a few months following. My sincere condolences!!