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Have not been around much lately so thought I would post a fast message.
In June my Mom was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer in the lungs, spine and liver.
With in two days she was paralyzed and could not feel or move anything below her chest area.
They started Radiation treatment on the spine and was able to get her some feeling and movement back in her feet and legs.
She still has alot of numbness and has trouble trying to walk but is able to get around with a walker or four post cain most of the time.

We have been dealing with this and have been making alot of trips and plans on how to handle this so I have not been online much. I do stop just to look for a minute from time to time.

Today we got news that her last test shows that she does not have cancer in the liver and that the cancer in the spine is not as bad as they first thought.
The cancer in the lung is there but they think they can handle it.

She will start chemo next week. Right now we do not know how long it will take and figure they would only be guessing if they did give a number.
They will continue to run tests and monitor how it is going while she is taking it.

She has also been having alot of trouble with her feet swelling. She had told us it was doing this some but this past weekend when we went to see her we almost freaked when we seen it. Her feet looked like baloons. She said it was not as bad that day.
The doctor told her today that he can not give her water pills to help with this because of the lack of feeling in the midsection.
He said it should improve with the chemo and with the physical therapy.
In the mean time she is supoosed to wear support socks to help with it.
We gave her some my wife had and it did seem to help some.

She has been very brave on all of this and is keeping her spirits fairly well.
I find myself getting a little upset. She has alot of family very near her that she has run after helping for years.
Now she needs help and they do come by but not very much.
She finds herself setting in a chair and thinking most of the time by herself.

We plan to move her with us but it is about 450 miles and we want her to get to a place where she is better able to do it before we do something like this.
For now they seem slower then we would like but they have helped and we do not want to move her in the middle of treatment.

We have spoke to doctors out here and have it set up for her when she comes out that she will have doctors.

Sorry so long mind is running million Miles a Minute right now.
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I'm so sorry to hear that your Mum is so poorly. It must be very hard for her and pretty frightening for all involved.

Unfortunately it is so often true that a parent that did so much for their children throughout their lives is hardly visited or even seen as an inconvenience when no-one "needs" them.

I hope she gets stronger soon and can make that move without too much upset.

hugs to you all,

I know what yr going thru, I looked after my mum and dad, I live in Germany and they lived in England. One of the things my mum was most worried about was me getting too run down. it was difficult , but you will cope have too. I too had a step sister who lives in the same town as my parents but she never lifted a finger to help, untill after my dad died and then she came around every now and then about 6 times in 9 months ....but then she was just thinking about the will. It's your mum, you will cope believe me....but look after yourself otherwise you can't look after your mum....
I wish you lots of strength....take one day at a time....and ask for help if you need it..thats what friends are for.
Take care
Hello RWB, I will be thinking of you, your Wife and your Mum.
You have hard times ahead but at least you are doing absolutely everything you can. Well Done to you.
x Lola
Sorry to hear your news.
Sending healing thoughts to all of your family in this difficult time.
Your mum is blessed to have you.
Hello RW

Just a quick response 'bump' because I think this stopped showing on the new posts between my seeing it and PMing you.

With my very best wishes.
Felt moved to send you my sympathy and support in your trouble.

Take care of yourself and your have always seemed to be a strong person and a great help to your family.

BTW don't get me started on relatives that disappear when really needed. We are going through a similar situation with an edlerly aunt with vascular dementia.

sending healing hugs to you all.
I am sorry to hear your family has had their lives once again turned upside down. My thoughts will be with your Mom and your family.

Take care,
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