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I guess I'm having a hard time getting over this miscarriage thing and want to make sure I do the right thing next time.

I think I did a few things wrong and I would appreciate your opinions

1) I lifted some heavy boxes at work 30-40lbs
2) I was feeling nauteous so I skipped meals several times a during the week, which caused me to lose 6 lbs in one week
3) I had some stress at home due to in law issues

Do you think any of this could have caused my miscarriage? I wanna make sure I make it right next time


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so sorry

I am so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. But I am also sure you did nothing to cause it. Sometimes things like this happens with no way to explain why, and what is more sad is we as humans have to live with that knowledge. It is not easy but sometimes that is just how things are.

If you have concerns maybe you should call or see your doctor, touch on these things you listed, put your mind to rest. If there had been restrictions with your pregnancy than I would question these, but for peace of mind ask your doctor.

My first son came early, way too early I was 22 weeks and he was so small and when he passed away, I thought I had done something to cause it. When I became pregnant again I drove my family and my doctor nuts, ok even myself alittle nuts.

It is not easy putting aside the feelings you have right now. And I know when my son passed away I thought I would never get over it. All I can tell you each day becomes alittle easier. My prayers are with you :)

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Dear Savvy,

I am very sorry to hear about your miscarriage. They, hard so hard. They leave us feeling guilty, and wondering what we possibly did to cause it.

You didn't do anything wrong, I am sure. Please, try not to worry. If you have addressed all your concerns with your dr, then chances are, your next pregnancy will be fine.

I had two early miscarriages, and one stillbirth. I had R.H factor, and lupus..I am sure, but at the time, it wasn't diagnosed.

It sounds like your doing the best you can to address every concern you have.
If proper testing, and the proper medications, and precautions are taken, you will most likely have a very healthy baby in the future.

My advice, would be to give your body, and heart time to heal, and recover and get as healthy as possible, and then when your drs, give you the word that your ready..If you feel, it is a good time, look forward to having a healthy baby.:)

Best Wishes,
Love Sandy
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