I'm so sad. Recently diagnosed with lupus SLE and rheumatoid arthritis but still haven't seen my rheumatologist. My entire family has been ignoring me for two weeks since I found out. I called my mother and she told me I wasn't sick and that I am a hypochondriac. I told her that my doctor said I had it and that a rheumatologist needs to look at me because there seems to be a more underlying condition (from my test results) also that it is not her specialty. I haven't been able to work for three months, I have had a flare since then and it's so bad I literally can't get off the couch most days. I also have a special needs child at the age of 9 and no one to help me care for him. He specializes in extreme restlessness and destruction :/ I called my sister and tried to reason with her and she said that I am a hypochondriac and that I can also be sick and a hypochondriac! I asked her how am I one and she said because I say my teeth are almost gone and I am going bald! She said I'm clearly not! I showed her pics of my teeth, all missing in the back in the bottom (the ones you chew with) and my hair total bald spots on both sides of my head. She said pictures don't do justice! This made me cry for two weeks. No one understands how it feels to lose these things. I called my mother one more time and tried to just talk about normal things, she flipped out on me for not calling my other sister before her minor outpatient surgery. I told her I was in the hospital because my throat and tongue swelled and I had a hard time breathing and that she hasn't even had her surgery yet and I would have asked her how she was after! She said I was selfish and that life isn't about me. She also said that it was extremely rude of me to block her on fb before her surgery. I told my mom that I turned Facebook off to avoid stress and I didn't block anyone! She didn't take anything I said and just kept yelling at me. I had to block her. I flared up so extremely bad I went back to the doctor for swollen collarbone and neck. No one has called me or even offered to help. Then I got on fb to check on my sister and she posted that our Mother had come to her house did all her laundry all her dishes and watched her daughter for the whole week! She was working the day after her femoral hernia surgery! I'm so stressed. I don't know what to do. I feel like giving up. I can barely take care of my son and I don't know any resources. Please help!