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Hi everyone,

I just got word that my Mom is in emergency surgery. Apparently she has been sick the past two weeks and this morning she couldn't get out of bed. I find it hard sometimes to understand that generation because they "don't want to bother the doctor". It turned out that her bowel had ruptured. They gave her a 50/50 chance. It is definite that she will have a colostomy. I feel kind of hopeless. We live 3 hours away and I'm still not able to walk much with my knee thing. And dear hubby is impaired.:mad: I waiting to hear any minute how it went. She is 81 years old, so it is major surgery for her (for anyone). They said she was pretty scared going into surgery.

I'm hoping hubby will take me home, but I'm a lot of work to do that though. I need the wheelchair, walker and a crutch to do stairs.

Any prayers or positives vibes you can offer up will be deeply appreciated.

Thank you.

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Nutty,

I will add your mom to my prayers tonight.

I can tell you that although I am not 81 years of age, I had some pretty extensive bowel/stomach surgery last year and made it through ok. It was a 6 hours surgery but in good hands I think we all can heal.

I am sorry you have the worry of this on your shoulders. Please keep us posted when you hear of the outcome with your mom. Positive vibes are being sent to you and I will certainly keep your mom in my thoughts, especially tonight.
 

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((((((Nutty)))))) :hugbetter:

I'm sorry to hear your mum is so ill... :( I hope everything goes ok with her surgery tonight.

Sending loads and loads of strengthening hugs your way :grhug: :grouphug2:

Your mum will be in my thoughts and prayers

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Hi everyone,

We just got word that my Mom has made it through the surgery. Apparently she only had a 20% chance without the surgery. However, it was a lot worse than they thought based on the CT scan. She is in ICU and on a ventilator because they are not sure she is well enough to breathe on her own. They did do the colostomy. The next two days are critical and they said there is still a 40% chance she will not make it. We are going home tomorrow despite my health issues. I should be okay cause I need to be there right now.

Thanks again for your support.

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Hello Nutty,

I'm so sorry to hear about your Mum and I'm sure it is very hard for you to be away from her, a feeling I understand very well.

I will keep her in my thoughts and prayers,

love and hugs :grouphug2:

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Hello Nutty

I am really sorry to hear about your Mom. I too know very well what it feels like to be far from a suffering parent.
I hope you can get the chance to visit her if not to keep in close touch as best you can.
My mother also didn't want to "bother the doctor" or anybody else come to that.

Keeping you in my thoughts

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Nutty,

Sending a hug and a prayer to you. I hope your mom heals well, from her surgery, and that this doesn't cause, you to have health complications.

Best Wishes,
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Your mom, and you, and your family are all in my thoughts and prayers.

Do your best to take care of yourself during this difficult time.

(((Nutty)))
 

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Hi Nutty,

The same thing happened to my 80 year old neighbor. She was in pain and thought it would pass. It took 2 surgeries to repair the damage but she made it through.

My thoughts and prayers will be with your Mom and your family for a positive outcome.

Take care,
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Hi Nutty,
Sorry to hear about your Mom. You will feel so much better when you are there with her in person. I will put you all in my prayers!!!


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Nutty,

Glad your mum made it through surgery and please let us know how you make out when you get back.

Best of luck to you and your family.
 

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Update

Thanks everyone. I came to check in and read your well wishes again. Yesterday things looked a little promising, but things have turned drastically today. The next severals hours (or days) will be hard for everyone making some very difficult decisions. I was able to play her song for her today I wrote for her, but she was unresponsive. I'm pretty sure she can hear though...yesterday she was able to give us a sign that she hear us. I had planned on playing it for her next weekend at my Dad's birthday party. I wrote a song for my Dad as well. (www.soundclick,atm.commusic  ”Our Blessed Mother” and ”Cause You’re My Dad)Today her organs are slowly deteriorating. The doctors suggested the possibility of more surgery, but she is not well enough.

Thanks again for your support and please continue your prayers and positive vibes. I am holding up, but the stress is showing in my health issues. I will be fine though, I'm sure.

Nutty


 

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Sorry, something happened to my fonts and I can’t fix the link.

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Dear Nutty

My thoughts and prayers are with you as you face some hard decisions :hug:

Much love and strength and thank you for taking time out to let us know how things are.

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sending lots of loving support for you and your mum. Such a harrowing time for you and your family.

Take extra special care of yourself

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Hi... I'm sorry your mom is sick. It must be difficult being 3 hours away. I know you are trying to work out a plan for the next couple of days as they will be tough... I've dealt with long-distance illness and its very difficult. My family member was on a vent too. I knew he was in good hands, but every night I called the ICU, talked with his nurse and asked that he/she tell him directly into his ear that I had called and that I loved him...
I never told him what I asked the nurses to do every night, but when he got well and went home he said it was really weird..that he 'felt' me there all the time, but knew I wasn't... The other thing I did was NOT feel like I was bothering the nurses etc. I called once a shift, kept it quick and felt better being informed... I wish you strength ~
 

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(((Nutty)))
I'm so sorry you are going through this. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Take care of yourself too.

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Thanks everyone for your supprt.

I ended up coming home. There is nothing we can do at this point. I was getting sick myself, so we came home where it is easier for me to take care of myself. Things don't look very promising, but we are not giving up hope yet.

So, I'll just keep praying and try to hang in the best I can. I slept through 14 hours last night. I haven't done that since I was a teenager. I guess I needed it and shows how unwell I was. There is no place like home; plus we have the house set up so I can manage most things for myself.

Thanks,

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Nutty,

I guess I have to pray harder, and I will.

I sure hope your mom is going to be ok and that given time it will heal her wounds.

My heart goes out to you and your heavy in my thoughts right now.

Gently hugs are being sent to you and your family.

Please, take care of YOU and keep us posted.
 
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