Moving on!
pkrdstrfsh1;554599 said:
Oh Rene, I can totally relate to you. My husband got Hodgkins Lymphoma last March and I totally supported him through all of it even though my Lupus was flared the whole time. Just dealing with everything the best I could taking care of our 6 yr old son. This Feb. my Lupus rapidly started getting worse and I have never had any support from him. My dr said it is progressing very fast now and it is probably due to being in a flare for so long with still so much stress and no support. So needless to say I told my husband that he doesnt respect me, care for me, help me, understand or even try to research what I am going through. That if i continue like this I will end up dying and since he doesnt care then I want a divorce.
Of course he denied all etc but everytime he said something I just said "I am done I am going to die" and he moved out last Monday. It is not easy but if he hasnt helped then he wont end up helping and doesnt want to help so you need to move on and get that extra stress out of your life. I am not saying it is easy by any means but it is really the best decision. Sorry. Good luck!
Lupus friend,first of all I want to say that I am so sorry that you helped him and he abondebe d you in your time of nedd(beleive me there will be pay day some day!!Here is my delimma, I hate to blunt but I mean it in the most respectful way possible!!!! When I am not able t have relations with me husband he is a down right MEAN BEAR, I MEAN HATEFUL!!! and before I can get the chance to feel alittle better he has cussed me terribly,used the most vulgar words and talks to me hateful. SO then when do do get a little able I am so hurt by how he treated me while I was in pain ,sometime agony I don't want him to touch me periods
.But the only way I can get him to help me is to had some kind of intimacy with him and after the way he has treated me it makes me feel degrated to to it,. I 'm scared through, I scared about how in the world will I make it on my on and if I will get my so because I am sick. See he takes him to school every morning because at that time I can hardly move until I take My meds. I am scared about How much money I will get in alimony and child support. I have to pay all my bills and buy my meds. I wil loose BCBS but will have medicare. I can't pay for it.
Can you pleae tell me if you don't mind how you are making in detail. I swear I am not trying to be noisy. I need someone to tell me what to,How the system works,what to do,who to contact for help(like attorneys that will help us in these sitations and realistically how much money we can get. I know you don't know for sure. But you have been here and any advise helps. I know that I am living in a verbal and mental abusive reationship!I had to let myself go completely knumb so that I couldn;t feel any longer.I don;t have love or hate.
I have NOTHING!! that way I don;t feel so I do'nt hurt.Can you believe that just 3 years ago my husband was telling me that I was the greatest at everything,because even through all the infections,flu like smptoms,vomiting etc............. I was still able to do so much. Well it caught to me and knocked me for a loop and I went from the bed to the recliner and now the things he yells,cusses and says to me are purely AWFUL!!!!!!!!!!!!I stay because I'm sick and don't want to loose my son and I worry able the money,bills etc...Sometimes I do the intimate things when I am able just to get him off my back if I am able and I feel degraded because of the way he has treated me.
He just doesnt care. He has no compassion. I walked out of chemo one day . I was dripping in sweat and he had to nerve to say to me. I don't know it I love you any more. WOW! I just cried. BUt threre is alot more where that comes from. But but no matter how sick I am if I show itmacey he's some what helpful. But if he saw this he would say non of it is true. He told me he does'nt want to hear anything I have to say and doesn't respect me at all. and all I did was get sick.
Funny when I was first dx he was great.That is as long as I was doing everything .but when I could'd anymore he became a very,mean CRUEL





So any advise,contacts anywould help. I was crying the other day and I told him I was scared I was going to die. He was rude and said that i should be doing things for others. I said how can I . I can't even do for myself. The list just goes on. Thanks for listening. sorry fo any misspellings it is 3:00am eastern time and yes I am up. This medicine does weird things to ones body. Thank you my lupus friend. I know we don't know each other at all but we feel each others pain because we live it!!!! GOD'S BLESSINGS ON YOU AND YOUR SON!! MY ONE AND ONLY SON(child) is 13.
