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So I saw my high risk ob today.. well it wasn't so great. She basically told me that this pregnancy would end just like my last one (pre eclampsia, early birth).. its just a matter of how early.. and how serious. Im like wow.. it was just kind of a shocker.. you know how you just have a GOOD feeling about things sometimes?? I just feel at peace with this pregnancy. I have been in prayer and really trusting in God and then its like party poopers like her come along and burst the bubble sometimes. Now, she was only giving me facts but it was a bit overwhelming. The thing I did appreciate about her though is that she is very knowledgable.. she is definetly an expert in the high risk area, the last high risk ob i saw.. I didnt really feel that from him. I just had to vent.. I know that you have had experiences like this one.. where you leave the doc and your like HUH??
 

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Sorry to hear you had a bad time with your doctor today. Just wanted to let you know that someone else can understand how you are feeling. Hopefully once you have simmered down you can go back to your positive thinking! Do you know why they came out with this depressing pronouncement about your pregnancy?

I am thoroughly fed up with the medics who think that they are G-d's gift quite frankly and forget that the person sitting in front of them is a human being with feelings. Sorry I haven't followed your story - how many weeks pg are you now and it also sounds like you've had a previous pregnancy with pre-eclampsia? I've had 2 live births both with pre-eclampsia but fortunately quite late - my aunt had my cousin at 26 weeks also due to pe and she's a healthy 28-year old now!

My aim this year is to annoy my local docs by getting pg at age 42/43 . . . a long shot I know!

Love,
Lily
 

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Hold onto your good feeling - it has to be healthier for you and the baby that way ;) I would feel a need to vent after such an appointment too... and I have to say that while chances may be high, I don't think anyone should ever say that with 100% certainty. You never know...

I was scared I was going to read that something bad had actually happened instead of something possibly bad was projected to happen - so overall I'm quite relieved now that I have read your post.

Continued good wishes for a healthy pregnancy for the two of you! :)
 

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Hi Leah,

I had one miscarriage where the doctor said after that I would never have carried to term. This was a long time ago and I didn't really understand at the time but something about some sort of filia holding the fetus in the womb. He said there were not enough of them. This was in between two full term pregnancies.

I would get a second opinion very quickly. Did this doctor say why she was thinking this way?

Keep the faith.
 

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Hi Leah,

Listen...having lupus alone puts us at high risk for pregnancy...that being said many people without lupus have preeclampsia as well. Keep praying and keep your faith..as Maia said, those good feelings will only help you.

Be cautious, rest alot but dont let this news deter you from enjoying the new life in you.

Take care, be well,
Sharon
 

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Thank you so much for all the encouragement :) The doctor said that because of the fact that I had pre eclampsia in my last pregnancy and the fact that I have lupus.
 

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Hi Leah,
Just wanted to say that I really felt for you I have come back from ob appointments in floods or tears because of what doctors have said to me and felt confused and absolutelt terrified.
I have had 5 children and had pre ecampsia in all my pregnanacies but only one of my children was born as early as 27 weeks and although she had a difficult start she is a very intelligent beautiful and healthy 6 yr old.
My old children were born between 36 and 38 weeks as although I had pre eclampsia appearing I managed to hang on this long before delivery was required. Altough all my deliveries were under emergency circumstances.
I think its quite unhelpful for a doctor to say that this is a definate and to say in that way, often babies born from even 34 weeks do not need specialist interventions apart from some monitoring perhaps, as long as they have done ok throughout delivery.
I think that you know that the risks are there but it does not mean that this is a certainty. I would try to stay calm and look after yourself and keep thinking positive, try not to over do it.
I you feel well yourself than that is a good sign.

All the best of luck to you.

Take Care

Cassie :)
 
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