Dear Jen,
I am not a smoker but I take my hat off to you for quitting!
You have definitely done the right thing re. this Youth Worker. Whatever the result you have acted decently and in the interests of protecting others.
You should really be proud of yourself.
As for teenagers, mine both got like that around the age of 14 or 15. It was not good,especially as mine did some daft things that I thought they were too smart for. Nothing heavy, just teen stuff. It can disappoint you rather.
And secretive all of a sudden, starting to think their friends had all the answers rather than ask us.
It didn't last too long but at the time it seemed like it. I think most Mums of Teens,if they are honest, need a bit of support from friends at this time.
x Lola