this is a real moaning, winging, complaining, letting it all out so if you don't want to spoil your day, don't read it.
To cap the story so far.....
looked after alkoholic husband for 20 odd years last number of years partic. bad along with caring for elderly parents in another country upuntil their death. work, and brought 2 kids up (looking back alone)..husband loses his job,.husband leaves me last year togo back to girlfriend from 30 yrs ago.....moves into her villa ..she is a widow....house where I live with kids sold, nasty landlord trying to kick us out after 23yrs.....aand lupus.
So I have been working all the hours I can (his unemplyment money nothing like his former wages)..and looking for a flat, spending hours on the internet, viewing flats along with countless other...can't get a soscial flat as I earn too much(but I can't get perm. contract so private landlords are very reluctant to take me).....anyway I found the perfect flat , my daughter loved it , ground floor (i live on 4th at the moment) and just perfect one of those you walk in and say...yes..this is it.
So we got the flat..i run around telling everyone..then they send me the forms to fill in...still no problem I put down what I earn plus X amount that I receive my from my X....so far so good.
they the co. say they want wantit official about how much he gives me.
We are not official seperated so nothing has gone thru the courts, he still just pays everything for the old flat. So on Friday we were running around trying to find a lawyer to give us something official...(we even went to a snake of a lawyer we know) but none could give us anything.......also inbetween a quick visit to tennants association as landlord putting pressure on me.
So my ex deceided to take things into his own hands...goes to see the co. about the flat takes them his own drafted letter(without showing it to me first) saying he can gaurantee to pay me until the end of 2010!!!! as then his unemplyment money stops. (he didn't bother to say that he will go into early retirement)..
Surprise, surprise they turned me down.... I had not told them he was unemployed..its me whoes going to be paying for the flat and I don't take risks with things like that I have worked it all out. I don't have a penny debt and still.
He then announces he is off onholiday for a week with his girlfriend, and send me aa e mail..more like a business lettter point a) point b) ect. saying it was very hurtful they way i reacted to him sending the letter...(it's a wonder you didn't hear me in London)
He said I accused him of not helping me to find a flat.
Point a) Its you that has to live in the flat not me...
dead '''**§§ing right as you have already left and are living ina villa.
I could never understand why seperations get so nasty..i do now...when he walked out he left all his stuff here. just took a few clothes and since bought all new. so they are all going in plastic bags and he can pick them up.
I hope a black rain cloud hovers over his head all his holiday (don't want to spoil it for other families there)...
Now where are those big rubbish bags...
thanks for listening----
marika






To cap the story so far.....
looked after alkoholic husband for 20 odd years last number of years partic. bad along with caring for elderly parents in another country upuntil their death. work, and brought 2 kids up (looking back alone)..husband loses his job,.husband leaves me last year togo back to girlfriend from 30 yrs ago.....moves into her villa ..she is a widow....house where I live with kids sold, nasty landlord trying to kick us out after 23yrs.....aand lupus.
So I have been working all the hours I can (his unemplyment money nothing like his former wages)..and looking for a flat, spending hours on the internet, viewing flats along with countless other...can't get a soscial flat as I earn too much(but I can't get perm. contract so private landlords are very reluctant to take me).....anyway I found the perfect flat , my daughter loved it , ground floor (i live on 4th at the moment) and just perfect one of those you walk in and say...yes..this is it.
So we got the flat..i run around telling everyone..then they send me the forms to fill in...still no problem I put down what I earn plus X amount that I receive my from my X....so far so good.
they the co. say they want wantit official about how much he gives me.
We are not official seperated so nothing has gone thru the courts, he still just pays everything for the old flat. So on Friday we were running around trying to find a lawyer to give us something official...(we even went to a snake of a lawyer we know) but none could give us anything.......also inbetween a quick visit to tennants association as landlord putting pressure on me.
So my ex deceided to take things into his own hands...goes to see the co. about the flat takes them his own drafted letter(without showing it to me first) saying he can gaurantee to pay me until the end of 2010!!!! as then his unemplyment money stops. (he didn't bother to say that he will go into early retirement)..
Surprise, surprise they turned me down.... I had not told them he was unemployed..its me whoes going to be paying for the flat and I don't take risks with things like that I have worked it all out. I don't have a penny debt and still.
He then announces he is off onholiday for a week with his girlfriend, and send me aa e mail..more like a business lettter point a) point b) ect. saying it was very hurtful they way i reacted to him sending the letter...(it's a wonder you didn't hear me in London)
He said I accused him of not helping me to find a flat.
Point a) Its you that has to live in the flat not me...
dead '''**§§ing right as you have already left and are living ina villa.
I could never understand why seperations get so nasty..i do now...when he walked out he left all his stuff here. just took a few clothes and since bought all new. so they are all going in plastic bags and he can pick them up.
I hope a black rain cloud hovers over his head all his holiday (don't want to spoil it for other families there)...
Now where are those big rubbish bags...
thanks for listening----
marika