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Oh, How I know about that

Dear Stacie,
Yes. I have some people who have to play the I know someone who is sicker than you, or I am sicker than you.;) These people also tend to have someone who always have more problems, a worse day etc.:mad: I try either to block them out, or just say I am fine when they ask, most of the people I have in my life like that have sort of distanced themselves from me, of course it is so hard with family. What I have had to do with my mom is compare how I feel with how my aunt looked like when she was ill, :sad: unfortunately she has passed away, but we had somewhat similar illnesses. That shut her up right away, she never said anything else that day, but was a bit nicer to me later on that day. What people need to understand is when someone says how they are, especially if you ask them, then they should listen to what you have to say, I do anyway. Unfortunately, How are you? or a comment of illness leads other people to either totally ignore what you say or expand upon what they or someone else goes through. What I have also pointed out is some people think autoimmune disorders are genetic. That gives people something to think about, especially if they are family, my Mom already knows that because our family was considered at one time to be studied because of the high incidence of those kinds of illnesses in our family. Of course a quick gotta go works too, the bathroom has saved me from many an unwanted converstion. I also agree that people don't want to feel the helplessness about the disease, my dad doesn't call or email me at all and he lives within five minutes of me, but has said that all my problems are too painful for him to deal with...and that was before I got the diagnosis of lupus. You could always try to tell her how you feel, but I am not sure she wants to listen. I hope things get easier to deal with, just know that here you can come and say exactly how you feel and we will listen and try to understand or will understand. Take care dear, Karly
 
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