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Hi everyone and a happy new year to you!

I am sorry but I really feel like having a bit of a whinge. Like most people when the new year comes along you hope that it is going to be better than the year before.

The last three years have been pretty awful, Mum was treated for breast cancer, father in law had a heart attack in front of me, My brother's marriage fell apart Christmas 2005 (his ex wife was a psycho and ended up with an exclusion order) and he had meningitis twice 2006 and ended up in hospital for 14 weeks over Christmas and new year 2006/7. At the same time as my brother's first attack of meningitis, our cousin's vehicle was hit on the motorway by a drunk lorry driver and almost died! then in Jan 2007 when we had all the storms my uncle was paralysed when a roof blew of a house on a construction site and paralysed him. Whilst in hospital they found he too had cancer but was too advanced to treat. The one saving grace is that he cannot feel anything below the chest!

So that was all pretty pants really. My brother is now in a wheel chair and I was diagnosed with lupus. 2008 was a naff year for me I had to reduce my hours at work as I was falling apart at the seams. Just whe I thought everything was starting to get better, all the "equipment" at home started to go knackered, first my husbands computer then my laptop, then my husbands computer again, followed by the TV, then in december just before christmas my Oven went wrong, followed by my laptop AGAIN!

So I thought 2009 would be a New year, new start sort of thing and was feeling really positive! How wrong was I. I am up in Lancashire visiting my disable brother and his children and my blasted car got Keyed outside his house on new years day! Coicidentally his girlfriends car has had the tyres "messed" with too!

I have a reasonably good idea who may have done it but cannot prove anything, so as well as paying out for a new damn laptop I will need to have my car re-sprayed. Unfortunately the damage is too deep to just T-cut and polish over!

Sorry to be so negative at the begining of the new year, but really it's about time something "positive" happened or am I just being rediculous. I suppose it could be worse, my mother is still alive although she is trying her best to smoke herself into oblivion (you would think that having had cancer and both her father and now her younger brother dying of the disease she would give up). My father in law survived only because my husband just happened to be able to use a defib), my brother now has a really nice girlfriend - mother doesn't like her prob because she stands up to her) and my cousin survived but has had emotional problems and mood swings ever since. My hubby has also been threatened with reundancy twice, luckly he has survived both!

I realise the cup is way more than half full (I suppose) but it's a case of what the heck is next, how much more!

Sorry to be a whinge bag

Claire
 

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Dear Claire, First of all Love to your Dear Missy. Hope she cheers you up.
I had a car keyed a couple of years ago. It was clearly not personal as I was 200 miles from home at the time. Luckily the insurance covered Malicious Damage. The Garage made the car as good as new. I then bought it home and smashed it straight into a metal post!

Your family problems I cannot even begin to comprehend. It is enough to do anyone's brain in.
You need to come here and get it off your chest.
x Lola
 

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Dear Clarie,

First of all I am sending you big, soft gentle hugs your way. (((Claire)))

I know what you mean it seems like when it rains, it pours.:( One thing keeps happening after another. We still have lupus bothering us the whole time.:(

You know though we with lupus are very strong. We will get threw it, even though at the time we don't think we will.
Hang in there my dear and keep your chin up. You always have us here on the lupus site to come to.

Sending much love and :hug::hug: your way. Take care of yourself.

Love,
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Claire.......:hug:

It seems unsurmountable what you and your family have been through..I do hope that this year turns around for you...I have had similar feelings these last two years, it seems like it is never going to get better..you just have to have faith that it will. I have firmly developed the thought "If it does not kill me, it will make me stronger"... Cliche I know, but it helps me get through the day.

Keeping you in my thoughts,
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Without a doubt, it *IS* time something good happens to you and your family. If only a shiny new year was the thing that brought it... I do think that it does balance out over time so you should have many great years ahead of you after all that has happened in the last few years. Hang in there!
 

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Hello Claire,

I think we all get bad runs like that in life where nothing seems to go right. I have had two major occasions which made lupus diagnosis seem like a tiny drop in the ocean. My problems didn't really involve family as, apart from parents, I've never really had one but I think we do come out of it and I live on the principle that with all that behind me I've had my share so I should be OK now...well no harm in believing that.

As there's loads of 2009 left, I'll be hoping that the rest of it will be far more tranquil as far as you're concerned.

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Claire,
Sounds like you have had more than your share of problems over the years. I am sorry that it seems like all is going wrong right now but on the up side you still have your loved ones. These close calls may of been a wake up call, sometimes it takes bad things for us to realize just how lucky we are. You still have your mom and your brother with you. Your husband is by your side and it can be hard with the house hold items going crazy. Keep your chin up and thank god you have family.
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(((Claire)))

Sending you some hugs, and hoping for better times ahead, it's not fair that you and your family have had so much to contend with, and you must be due some good things to happen, it is really hard when everything is all happening to those we love as well as ourselves, and in a way I think the stuff that we just have no control over is the most difficult to cope with, because there is nothing we can do to effect things. Do take care of yourself xx
 

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Thanks all for your kind words of support you guys are so great.

My brother and I have always been close, even when our mother was playing one against the other! His stresses and ill health have brought us all the more closer and I miss him greatly as he lives over 200 miles away. It upsets me to know that is moo of an ex wife won't allow him to make changes to the house so he can get upstairs and stuff, even though her solicitor has told her she should. He has lived in the lounge now for 2 years, he has no privacy and I would love to slap some sense into that tiny excuse of a brain.:mad:

I always look on the bright side or try to, but good grief I think it is about time things went right for all of us but in particular him. I would love to have the money to buy him a new house for his needs and tell his ex wife what she can do with the house he is living in at the moment. I know it's not very christian of me but she had made my brother and his children's lives miserable and is still doing it now!!! I should content myself with what goes around comes around, but I'm still waiting.

Sorry to be such a whinge bag

Claire
 

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Dear Claire

Im so sorry you have had such a horrible couple of years :hug: You sure deserve a turn of fortune and I hope to goodness there is some good news on the horizon for you. Thats a very sad situation that your brother finds himself in. I wish for you a great big lotto win so that you can buy him the most beautiful and accessible place to live. Well, one is allowed to dream...

Much love to you
Joan:rose:
 

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Dear Claire,
I am so sorry for your families run of such awful bad luck.
I really hope that things start to improve for all of you, and I too will be hoping for a lotto win for you!! I have been hoping for one myself aswell to save our local orimary school as our local authority have decided that they are going to close it, so its not for selfish reasons!!

Take Care, and I think you have every reason to feel fed up. I just hope something overwhelmingly good happens for you soon.

Good Luck

Cassie :)
 

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(((Claire)))

Life sure has a way of kicking a person when they are down:sad:

I am sending lots of hugs and prayers your way and I hope things get better for you soon.
take care

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Thanks again guys

Cassie sorry to hear about your primary school, sound very much like somerset county to do something odd like that. I am assuming it is one of the "country" schools? I hope they see sense or something comes along to save it for the sake of the children.

Joan and Elle a lottery win would be cool it would solve a few issues but hey I'm not that lucky :rotfl:!

Well I have Missy she has been a god send.

Take care everyone and I hope 2009 is better for everyone
 

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Super Big Hugs To You Claire! So Sorry All You Have Been Through And Pray Everything Gets Better For You At Once! Keep The Faith ! Not All Is Bad Look Who Just Came Into Your Life, Your Darling Missy. Don,t Worry About Whining Thats What We Are Here For Hon To Get Things Off You! Hope To See You Soon In Chat.gbu Gsd77
 

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You are so right

Missy has been a god send she has brightened my world and my husband is seeing a difference he says I am much happier! So we are going to start training classes this week. As she is deaf I am struggling a little so I thought it might help if I had some professional help :rotfl:!

Thanks all for your kind support.

Claire
I will let you know how we get on!
 
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