Went to the new dermatologist today to investigate some changes to the rash I have pretty permanatly on my chest. I wasn't thrilled the moment I walked in, as their directions did not include all the detours from construction at the hospital. Felt like I had to walk a mile from the parking garage to the office.
After waiting over an hour, I was finally put back in an exam room. The doctor came in some 10 minutes later(or maybe less - at that point every minute was eternity), and she began to take my history and note the chart.
After about 4 minutes, the nurse knocked on and opened the door, and the doctor states "oh, there is somebody else ahead of you in the other room", and left the examination! :hissy:
After the initial shock wore off, my first thought was to just storm out of the office. I took a deep breath, and decided for once I was going to stand up to these rude physicians, and let them know what I think of their behavoir.
She returned to the exam room some 15 minutes later, without explanation, and sat down. I stood up, and told her "that was unbelievably rude of you to leave the room like that, after keeping me waiting over an hour! I am so mad at you I could just spit nails!" :screamin: ect, ect, ect.
I didn't yell, I didn't cry (something I tend to do when I am angry), and I didn't back down. She continued to try to justify her behavoir, and never once apologized. I let her know that my time was just as valuable as hers, and she obviously did not value me as a patient.
And I walked out ...............:angry: :grrr:
I have for the first time learned to stand up to a doctor, and have had enough self esteem to do so without losing emotional control. I tell you, at first it felt like when I was trying to get diagnosed, and it seemed all the doctors were against me, and I always left the appointments so crushed. But I learned to say no, and thought well enough of myself to demand respect.
Of course now I am obsessing about it - I should have said this, I could have said that, those crazy conversations I always replay in my head.
I didn't know who to talk to about it, but I bet someone here will know what I mean when I say I had a major breakthrough and a victory in my battle with lupus today. Take that, you inconsiderate doctors! :dancing: