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What to do - decisions to make....

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Hi - let me first apologise if this thread is in wrong place but wasn't sure where to put it ;) I want to ask you all for your wisdom and advice on my current dilema so please join in and tell me what you would do in my shoes.....

Background - still awaiting diagnosis of anything - i suppose main problems are low white count and pains! Currently on maternity leave, meant to be leaving job and starting nursing in January so will have to hand notice in beginning of December if going ahead with that.

My choices are -
1. Forget nursing until i know whats wrong - potentially deferring course which leaves me with dilema of whether to go back to job i was unhappy in but was paid well in.

2. Go ahead with application and pack job in - fingers crossed for the best outcome.

3. Forget everything and stay at home with daughter which i actually can't really afford to do but just hope everything works itself out.

As it looks like my case is going to be split between haematology and rheumatology i dont hold out hope for an answer to all medical issues in time for decision making about life. Occi health at Uni just said its really down to whether i feel i can do it - but i feel better some days than others.....

I feel a lot of pressure mounting now to dive in deep end and decide what im doing which probably isn't helping me. So come on folks - what would you do?
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Hello Kiara
I just can't resist a semi invitation to move a thread you know !:lol: But this seemed a better place as the dilemma is about being ill and making career decisions whether diagnosed or not and whatever the diagnosis eventually is.

I would plump for going back to the job I know, assuming it is easy to defer the nursing. My reasons would be: first that this gives you a chance to see how you get on with working now that you also have a child to care for and possibly need to work out domestic life and childcare with a partner or other support people; second, although you don't like your job you are familiar with it and the stresses and possibly it would be a bit easier for you to take time off if need be, compared with starting a completely new very demanding venture and maybe having a disrupted start due to health needs as well as adjusting to being a working mum.
I imagine your work hours are regular but in nursing you they could be varied so the chance for rest is limited. You will have a chance to get started on medications that would improve your health and stamina and enable you to give the nursing your best shot.

Good Luck ! I hope it won't be too long now before they have decided what the problems are due to.

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Hello Kiara :)

DLA is Disability Living Allowance awarded on the basis of what you can't do without help, not means tested in any way. It doesn't depend on diagnosis, simply degree of disability. Although some diseases do have an immediate entitlement, Lupus isn't among them. See the forum section below.

Bear in mind that when you are diagnosed, you still need to find effective treatment to make you as well as possible which often takes several months at least.
Post diagnosis can be as trying as pre diagnosis.

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