Parksey, you need to do some research! As Claire said, it's about 90% women. I know when I was diagnosed I was kinda in the same boat, I had NO idea what Lupus was, and this was a bit before the internet made finding info easy. My GP left me a message on my answering machine, "I've diagnosed you with Lupus". Had to call my Mom, who I knew had a medical dictionary, to find out what Lupus was. I went to one support group meeting in my area....all women other than I. VERY nice people, but I felt a bit outta place, and I don't think they were quite used to a guy being there! Boy, that was a long time ago. When I think back on the trust I had to give my Doc.. I started chemo just a few weeks after I was diagnosed (after a 24hr urine and Kidney biopsy) and still had no real knowlege of what Lupus was and some of the books I had read were a bit out of date, so they scared me. These message boards are great, I would've loved to have been able to chat with people who had gone through chemo before I had to do it. I was very lucky to get a Rumy that was awsome (still see him today.....I dumped the GP, who had treated me like a hypochondriac for years!) and did everything right.
-Eric